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IraGlacialis
01-13-2007, 08:03 PM
Man files lawsuit to take wife's name
By GREG RISLING, Associated Press Writer

LOS ANGELES - Mike Buday isn't married to his last name. In fact, he and his fiancee decided before they wed that he would take hers. But Buday was stunned to learn that he couldn't simply become Mike Bijon when they married in 2005.
As in most other states, that would require some bureaucratic paperwork well beyond what a woman must go through to change her name when marrying.
Instead of completing the expensive, time-consuming process, Buday and his wife, Diana Bijon, enlisted the American Civil Liberties Union and filed a discrimination lawsuit against the state of California. They claim the difficulty faced by a husband seeking to change his name violates the equal protection clause of the 14th Amendment.
"Diana and I feel strongly about gender equality for both men and women," Buday said. "I think the most important thing in all of this is to bring it to a new level of awareness."
Mark Rosenbaum, legal director of the ACLU in Southern California, said it is the first federal lawsuit of its kind in the country. "It's the perfect marriage application for the 17th century," Rosenbaum said. "It belongs in the same trash can as dowries."
Only six states — Georgia, Hawaii, Iowa, Massachusetts, New York and North Dakota — have statutes establishing equal name-change processes for men and women when they marry. In California and other states, men cannot choose a different last name while filing a marriage license.
In California, a man who wants to take his wife's name must file a petition, pay more than $300, place a public notice for weeks in a local newspaper and then appear before a judge.
Because of Buday's case, a California state lawmaker has introduced a bill to put a space on the marriage license for either spouse to change names.
The Cnesus Bureau does not keep figures on how many U.S. men are taking their brides' names. But clearly it happening more and more. Milwaukee County, Wis., Clerk Mark Ryan estimated that one in every 100 grooms there now takes the name of his wife.
Bijon, 28, approached Buday about the idea when they were dating. She had no brothers but wanted to prolong the family name. Buday, a 29-year-old developer of interactive advertising, was estranged from his own father and was not attached to his own last name.
"I knew immediately it was pretty important to her or else she wouldn't have brought it up," Buday said.
At one point, the couple tried the Department of Motor Vehicles to get a name change. But Buday said he was told by a woman behind the counter: "Men just don't do that type of thing."
Couples who want to hyphenate or combine their names also must endure the lengthy court procedures in California. One of the more notable examples was Los Angeles Mayor Antonio Villaraigosa, who went to court to fuse his last name, Villar, with his wife's, Raigosa, when they married in 1987.
Laws giving women an easy choice of names were largely a byproduct of the feminist movement. A 2004 Harvard University study found that the number of college-educated women who kept their surnames upon marriage rose from about 3 percent in 1975 to nearly 20 percent in 2001.

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20070112/ap_on_re_us/take_my_wife_s_name

stupendousman
01-13-2007, 10:02 PM
so trivial to fight over something like a name -.-

buckeyedoc
01-13-2007, 10:05 PM
Maybe he should take the Gay-o-Meter quiz below and see if he's with the right gender.

tyovan
01-13-2007, 10:42 PM
^ If I marry my girlfriend I'll be taking her last name and I'm not gay..

usm2b
01-13-2007, 11:47 PM
^ If I marry my girlfriend I'll be taking her last name and I'm not gay..

Why? Not being malicious...just asking.

exarmyguard
01-13-2007, 11:53 PM
That dude is gay. Is he going to keep the wedding dress too?

stupendousman
01-14-2007, 12:09 AM
If she had a cool last name, maybe its worth reconsidering but...

tyovan
01-14-2007, 12:26 AM
Why? Not being malicious...just asking.

She's a doctor. She is known professionally by her last name and she has had articles published under her name. She's worked in Russia, Finland, Sweden, Denmark, London - she's known within the international medical community under her current name. She's a foreigner so we'd have to deal with both the Russian and American governments to change her name.

My last name is Yovanovich and her's is _ _ _ _ _ _ ovich - so it would be a REALLY long last name if we hyphenate it.

On the other hand, I'm only 20 - I'm in my first year of university. I don't have a professional reputation, etc. It would be a lot easier for me to change my name.

I want people to know we're married, so I want us both to have the same names. And I want people to know the kids are hers too - I don't want the kids to have a different last name than their mum.

Men taking their wives name isn't common, but I think in my case it would be best.

Rakki
01-14-2007, 12:22 PM
It's pretty much a matter of bloodlines - in Japan for example it's not all that uncommon for a guy to marry INTO the family and adopt the surname of his wife's family. That way a family doesn't "die-out" because they didn't have a son to carry on the family name.

DaGreatRV
01-14-2007, 12:37 PM
Americans can make a fuss about anything.
Just change the guys name, it ain't the ****ing 50's anymore.


BTW, if I get married I probably take my partners name, I think mine sux. :-(

sir-chimp
01-14-2007, 02:29 PM
jesus effing ice skating christ

sferrin
01-14-2007, 03:23 PM
In California? who'd have thought :roll:

Firetxmi
01-14-2007, 03:27 PM
I don't see what the big deal is.

In many cultures the man takes the womans surname.

shatro
01-14-2007, 03:33 PM
She's a doctor. She is known professionally by her last name and she has had articles published under her name. She's worked in Russia, Finland, Sweden, Denmark, London - she's known within the international medical community under her current name. She's a foreigner so we'd have to deal with both the Russian and American governments to change her name.

My last name is Yovanovich and her's is _ _ _ _ _ _ ovich - so it would be a REALLY long last name if we hyphenate it.

On the other hand, I'm only 20 - I'm in my first year of university. I don't have a professional reputation, etc. It would be a lot easier for me to change my name.

I want people to know we're married, so I want us both to have the same names. And I want people to know the kids are hers too - I don't want the kids to have a different last name than their mum.

Men taking their wives name isn't common, but I think in my case it would be best.

If you don't mind me asking, you must have some Serbian ancestry regarding your last name?

helomech
01-14-2007, 03:43 PM
The ACLU is putting their 0.02 in...imagine that.I wonder how that guys family feels about the name thing.If I were to do that,my pop would be kind of pissed and I don't blame him.I like my name so I won't be doing it anyway.
Maybe the guys trying to get someone to pay for the wedding....

Azreal La Mort
01-14-2007, 05:29 PM
I think i'll sue that guy for violating the dignity of the American Men..Roflmao rofl rofl rofl ..hell lets just sue everybody for everything..:cantbeli:

tyovan
01-14-2007, 07:19 PM
If you don't mind me asking, you must have some Serbian ancestry regarding your last name?

Zdravo :-)

Yes mate, I have Serbian ancestry. My family left Belgrade in the 1700s and moved to a village near Bela Crkva in Banat in Vojvodina which is where I still have relatives today. Of course Ellis Island corrupted my name - it should be Jovanovic. :-(