Giving your kids a good beating?

[Jack Mehoff]

If your kids misbehave (Example: Suspension from school, shoplifting, curse at their mother,general mischief, etc) I'm old school and I think it's ok to take a belt to your kids ass once in a while.

[molly747]

I got spanked when I was little, but only if I was really bad. My parents are both Old School Southerners, "pick your switch" type thing. And I turned out okay.

[Uncle Sam]

That's what's wrong with some of our youth today, their parents let them walk all over them. They need some good ole fashioned discipline! But not too excessive...

[mack pl]

I voted yes
But not too excessive...agree :|

[Hot Lips]

I'm OK with it, but it really depends on the self control of the person administering the spanking. It's meant to shock a kid into thinking about what they've done.... not an opportunity for the spanker to relieve stress.

[molly747]

Yes, it's just a way to reinforce that your actions have consequences. After it got drilled into my head around the age of 8, then I was treated like an adult.

[molly747]

Yes, it's just a way to reinforce that your actions have consequences. After it got drilled into my head around the age of 8, then I was treated like an adult.

[bishop1]

i never did anything bad enough when i was young to get spanked, but later the punches on the shoulder from my dad were plenty to get the point across i screwed up.

[UoUo]

Yeah sure...create fear in your children from you..insted of love.

[Operation Ivy]

little slap on the butt is fine with me

[bishop1]

Nah i didnt fear him, it was enough pain to know not to do stupid crap, for fear of the punch, not him

[California Joe]

We did this thread once already. I spanked my kids when they were little and rational discussion over the dangers of sticking you finger in the light socket was not an option. Past a certain age you're just hitting them cause it makes YOU feel better. If you don't believe that you're lying to yourself. It teaches that the bigger you are the more power you have to abuse the weaker.

[Fintin]

my rents used to get out a wooden spoon..then when that broke it went to a hair brush...i hid that...then to a belt...i learned to climb trees real well...they learned how funny a high pressure nozzle on the end of the hose is

[Hot Lips]

little slap on the butt is fine with me

Me too, grrrrowl. ;)

[Tane Angle]

I can't really ever agree with it. The three that we're raising now aren't our biological children, so maybe the fact that it'd sort of be disrespectful to their deceased parents has something to do with it. Also, for me to commit violence of any kind when it's not completely necessary makes me extremely uneasy. I can't even go hunting. Maybe that's because I've committed enough what I hope was necessary violence, and had enough violence committed against my people and myself, to last me for the rest of my life.

Minor, extremely occassional spanking is pretty different from taking a belt to a kid. I think Hot Lips, Molly, and CJ made some real good points. There's a difference between spanking a kid once to protect the child and keeping it up or elevating things because the parent wants to.

Have a good one, and just some thoughts...

[molly747]

Tane has a good point. My parents definitely disciplined me, but it never went beyond a good pop on the rear. My parents aren't violent people, and not a day goes by that my father doesn't tell me he loves me. As I got older, I realized the most hurtful thing they can do was say, "I'm so disappointed in you." I always felt so much worse knowing I had let them down.

[Salty Dog]

i'm never gonna hit my kids.

[Operation Ivy]

little slap on the butt is fine with me

Me too, grrrrowl. ;)

woot ;)

i'm never gonna hit my kids.

your not punching them in the face dep, just a little smack in the ass. It'l teach em good. If it wasn't for spanking, I wouldn't be the man I am today....




















Just shutup. ;)

[henksmoeder]

Don't think it's necesay. Giving a child more than one slap is harsh i think. I don't believe in raising kids with pain. The only times I was ever slapped by my rents(and it was really easy, with only one or two fingers) was when I was still a little kid and when I went completely ballistic. Just to get my attention.

Don't think it's necesay. Giving a child more than one slap is harsh i think. I don't believe in raising kids with pain. The only times I was ever slapped by my rents(and it was really easy, with only one or two fingers) was when I was still a little kid and when I went completely ballistic. Just to get my attention.


I think we should punish kids the Starship Trooper way.... 10 Lashes.... :D

[Salty Dog]

i'm never gonna hit my kids.

your not punching them in the face dep, just a little smack in the ass. It'l teach em good. If it wasn't for spanking, I wouldn't be the man I am today....






















Just shutup. ;)

no, i seriously won't even do that. however, i will let my wife spank them or whatever. but i'm not going to.

[Haiw]

no, i seriously won't even do that. however, i will let my wife spank them or whatever. but i'm not going to.
And you wanna be a Marine? Pussy.


;) Just kidding. :P

[California Joe]

I don't mind hitting other people's kids

[Hot Lips]

I'm torn on the whole spanking issue. I mean. How can something you enjoy be so wrong?


What?

[Haiw]

Beating...hitting...what ever happened to good-ole kicking the living **** out of 'em? You guys are no sports.

[caspermeister]

I'm OK with it as long as it's not too excessive. Many chlidren these days walk all over their parents. Have you ever seen "Thirteen" (2003) -> SCARY!!!!

[Moledet]

Are you mad? What? Beating up kids? WTF?!?!?! You are an ass if you do that. OMG, I can't believe that some people still think in that way, I thought that you have rules against that. You are not even allowed to hit a kid on his hand, he is not your property, he is a human and humans learn, slowly, but they learn.
I'm preety shocked from this thread (and the poll).
Don't wonder why they beat up others if you beat them up.

[molly747]

I'm OK with it as long as it's not too excessive. Many chlidren these days walk all over their parents. Have you ever seen "Thirteen" (2003) -> SCARY!!!!

Ugghhh, I *trying* to study at Starbucks the other day, when a woman came in and let her kids run around like a pack of wild dogs. Screaming, knocking over stuff, and she did nothing. Drove me nuts!

[Jack Mehoff]

My old man used to beat the **** out of me and my 4 other brothers. I don't think I hate him at all.

[Operation Ivy]

I'm torn on the whole spanking issue. I mean. How can something you enjoy be so wrong?


What?

:P woot

[memphiz]

I don't mind hitting other people's kids
Yeah Id hit other people kids if they pissed me off,

My old man used to beat the **** out of me and my 4 other brothers. I don't think I hate him at all.

and look at how tough you became :D

[mocking_loudly_died]

My old man used to beat the **** out of me and my 4 other brothers. I don't think I hate him at all.

Exactly, it made us not burn down the school (and committing other seemingly interesting ideas), kids today are little ****s because mommy and daddy are new age fairy puffs that let them get away with anything. Rational discussion doesn't work on teenagers - you need to whoop some ass.

PUT KIDS IN JAIL!

[Ballistic]

Todays children (and their parents in a way) lack discipline, not all of them though. I've gotten to know quite a few kids through work and some are really bright and disciplined and know what right and wrong is, but then I see the dregs walk in, swearing their heads off, acting like "gangstas", sometimes I wish I could just knock them on their ass because they act and look both stupid and immature, and I know their parents arent doing their job.

Parents allow their kids to watch violent and adult oriented movies (action and violence) and play games like GTA3 and other MA rated games (for those outside Australia MA = 15 years and over with adult supervision...but the adult will never supervise, they just buy the game to keep their kids quiet) and I know that has a direct influence on kids. They are impressionable, they do things they see in games and on TV because it looks cool and fun, but in reality it could be both dangerous or deadly.

Parents need to start acting like parents and instill the meaning of right and wrong in their childrens minds, letting them get away with anything without repercussions will have a direct impact on them in their later life. I dont think I'm an expert on the subject, but these are just things I have observed.

[Jack Mehoff]

Five fingers across the face will cure all the mischiefs.

[Kenshin]

I think a spank is not that bad. But from what a child Psych has adviced parents not to use their bare hands for punishment instead use an object. For kids might be confused whether when your hands to them.

[fisheyestudio]

Spare the rod, spoil the child.

Being too selfish or sensitive, and refusing your God given duty as a parent to discipline a child shows a real lack of love. Does it always have to require physical discipline, no. But again, I defer back to the owners manual...

There are many instances when a quick, sharp, dose of pain, has a more lasting and constructive impact than just talking about a mistake.

I have been a fulltime Dad for my daughters since they were born. The oldest two are 6 and the youngest is three. I use both spanking and timeout. I do not discipline when I am angry but I am quick to be stern when it is needed. My daughters are happy and know how deeply they are loved.

They know that I love them enough to correct them when they cross the line.

Being a parent is not for the timid or squimish. God disciplines those He loves, and if anyone knows how to be a good parent....its Him!

[ShotOver]

hahaha, yeah my dad used to knock the **** out of me as a kid, until i was about 14, then i hit him back, so he hasnt done it since.
But yeah, kid's do lack dicipline nowadays, and alot of them need to be smacked around a bit, so yeah, i'd whoop smack my kid on the back of the head or somthin like that, but wouldnt hit him/her in the face.

[Moledet]

Spare the rod, spoil the child.

Being too selfish or sensitive, and refusing your God given duty as a parent to discipline a child shows a real lack of love. Does it always have to require physical discipline, no. But again, I defer back to the owners manual...

There are many instances when a quick, sharp, dose of pain, has a more lasting and constructive impact than just talking about a mistake.

I have been a fulltime Dad for my daughters since they were born. The oldest two are 6 and the youngest is three. I use both spanking and timeout. I do not discipline when I am angry but I am quick to be stern when it is needed. My daughters are happy and know how deeply they are loved.

They know that I love them enough to correct them when they cross the line.

Being a parent is not for the timid or squimish. God disciplines those He loves, and if anyone knows how to be a good parent....its Him!
If you'll talk with them they'll understand you, you don't need to hit them.
BTW, Isn't that a crime in the USA?

[786mine]

That's what's wrong with some of our youth today, their parents let them walk all over them. They need some good ole fashioned discipline! But not too excessive...

you just said what i was thinking about.

[786mine]

Spare the rod, spoil the child.

Being too selfish or sensitive, and refusing your God given duty as a parent to discipline a child shows a real lack of love. Does it always have to require physical discipline, no. But again, I defer back to the owners manual...

There are many instances when a quick, sharp, dose of pain, has a more lasting and constructive impact than just talking about a mistake.

I have been a fulltime Dad for my daughters since they were born. The oldest two are 6 and the youngest is three. I use both spanking and timeout. I do not discipline when I am angry but I am quick to be stern when it is needed. My daughters are happy and know how deeply they are loved.

They know that I love them enough to correct them when they cross the line.

Being a parent is not for the timid or squimish. God disciplines those He loves, and if anyone knows how to be a good parent....its Him!
If you'll talk with them they'll understand you, you don't need to hit them.
BTW, Isn't that a crime in the USA?

If you beat the kid to death yes. Just a spank, it's ok. A slap/hard spank, its legal but it is frawned upon.

[Moledet]

Spare the rod, spoil the child.

Being too selfish or sensitive, and refusing your God given duty as a parent to discipline a child shows a real lack of love. Does it always have to require physical discipline, no. But again, I defer back to the owners manual...

There are many instances when a quick, sharp, dose of pain, has a more lasting and constructive impact than just talking about a mistake.

I have been a fulltime Dad for my daughters since they were born. The oldest two are 6 and the youngest is three. I use both spanking and timeout. I do not discipline when I am angry but I am quick to be stern when it is needed. My daughters are happy and know how deeply they are loved.

They know that I love them enough to correct them when they cross the line.

Being a parent is not for the timid or squimish. God disciplines those He loves, and if anyone knows how to be a good parent....its Him!
If you'll talk with them they'll understand you, you don't need to hit them.
BTW, Isn't that a crime in the USA?

If you beat the kid to death yes. Just a spank, it's ok. A slap/hard spank, its legal but it is frawned upon.
A spank, even on the hand, is a crime here, so it should be. But this guy is talking about taking the belt off, that's just mad.
If violence is being taught by you then do be surprised if one day he'll be like this guy (the live one):
http://www.thestar.com/images/thestar/img/040522_cdn_matchee_c_200.jpg

[king_nothing100]

:bash:

http://www.maddox.xmission.com/beat.html

[Tengu]

:bash:

http://www.maddox.xmission.com/beat.htmlow god i love that site rofl

Still...... http://www.ebaumsworld.com/forumfun/negative7.jpg

You have to hit them where it hurts; money, computergames,...

[Salty Dog]

yeah that sounds better than beating them.

[Nawlins]

I'm torn on the whole spanking issue. I mean. How can something you enjoy be so wrong?


What?

You're a baaaaaaad girl. (So glad to have you on the board!)

[Nawlins]

My siblings and I got spankings when we were little... but it was a last resort punishment, when we didn't seem to get it from other forms of punishment, or when we hurt each other. Especially if an older sibling did something to hurt a younger... that was an automatic spanking. So we learned not to hurt each other.

Also, my dad was the one who gave out all the spankings, because he's much more even-tempered than my mom. They were good about making it a calm, rational punishment rather than something out of anger. That's the way it should be, I think.

The way it was in my family, it wasn't so much pain as humiliation that got the message across. Spankings are on the bottom cause it doesn't really hurt that much.

Anyway, that's the long way to say I think if it's done the right way and for the right reasons it's okay.

[RS_Leo1A5]

Violence against children is one of the most shameful things I know!

(And BTW inflicting physical harm on another person is a crime and should be treated as such.)

[Jack Mehoff]

Violence against children is one of the most shameful things I know!

(And BTW inflicting physical harm on another person is a crime and should be treated as such.)

Don't talk crazy.

http://img15.imageshack.us/img15/1751/f10.jpg

[Dalleer]

Violence against children is one of the most shameful things I know!

(And BTW inflicting physical harm on another person is a crime and should be treated as such.)

I have to agree with you there, since in several cases the whole "punishment" goes too far.

But, I have to tell you that if I'd see (or have a kid) kid like that one from one of the Seinfeld episodes I'd use a goddamn sledgehammer to pound some sense into it.

Ehem, sorry to say.

[chauncy republicans]

You have to smack your kids around a bit, show them what consequence(probably spelled wrong) means. I've spanked my daughter plenty of times, and not to brag (I will anyway though) but my daughter is an angel. I see other little bad-ass brats (whos moms dont spank them, but resort to time-outs) running around yelling at their parents, and actually ordering them around. :cantbeli: You can just tell who smacks their kid and who does'nt by the way their kid behaves.

[Otsoa]

My parents used to use one good swat from a belt when all other measures had failed. Hell, all it used to take for us to change our tune was to see them go and get it. I was raised to know that my actions would have certain consequences. If I did something wrong, expect punishment. If I did something really wrong, then I was taught to expect the belt. All in all I think I might have gotten the belt a total of 5 times in my life and looking back now at the reasons, my parents were completely justified.

When my father would come home after driving logging truck for 16 hours/day, the last thing he wanted to hear was my sister and I fighting. When my sister and I would go after each other we would keep an eye out for my father. He would have his hand near his belt like a gunfighter would have his hand near his pistol. The more irrate my father would become, the closer his hand would go to the belt. The instant the tip of his finger touched his buckle, my sister and I would stop and go to our rooms. One time this happened I heard my father remark to my mother about how well trained we were as children and while it made me a little pissed off at the time, I was not foolish enough to challenge him on that remark.


Oh yes, to those who may think otherwise, I love and respect both my parents immensely.