Well, went on a blind date *need advice*

[Midav]

Going to try and make it as short as possible.

Last week, a co-worker asked me if I was single. I said I was and she told me she had a sister and wondered if I'd like to go out with her.

I said sure and got the number of her sister.

We spoke a couple of times on the phone and set a date to meet at a local cafe just to talk and basically get to know another.

Today we met and to honestly say, it went well. Talked for nearly two hours and we just talked about ourselves, basic things such as jobs, our past, family etc and went well, imo.

She's very attractive, good to talk to, knowledgable and very much anything a guy would want in a woman.

Yet, for some reason, I didn't feel a spark, nor like something was there.

Nothing.

Perhaps it was just me, but I think she may have felt the same. Yet, she said 'if you want to get together again, you have my number and I have yours'.

That was that.

Sorry to blurt this out, and yeah, I've had a few to drink, but it's been bothering me the whole day....

Was wondering if someone has advice and perhaps even if some of the female posters would give advice.

Dunno, but this bothers me.

[EvanL]

Its perfectly natural man.
You may find her attractive, but you may not feel a spark. That happens all the time man. Nothing wrong with you.
But get t oknow her a little more. Maybe the circumstances that you met her in made it seem weird to you. And thats why u dont feel the spark.
Give it another date or whatever.
And if worst comes to worse, atleast you found a new **** buddy. p-)
cheers

[Romulus]

Did you talk to her with huge spaces between your sentences as well? ;) JK

Usually if she doesn't put out on the first date she aint worth the time. :)

[Secret Squirrel]

Did you talk to her with huge spaces between your sentences as well? ;) JK

Usually if she doesn't put out on the first date she aint worth the time. :)

spoken like a virgin. :roll:

[Romulus]

spoken like a virgin.

Funny my wife and son would differ ****.

[Secret Squirrel]

spoken like a virgin.

Funny my wife and son would differ ****.

sweet merciful crap!? i hope your kidding and that your genes were actually forced upon a child. Wow, if you arent kidding, tell your son i'm sorry.

[Romulus]

sweet merciful crap!? i hope your kidding and that your genes were actually forced upon a child. Wow, if you arent kidding, tell your son i'm sorry.

Don't you ever ****ing mention my kid in your bull**** rants. You can bust on politics all you want faggot but when you bring family in you better watch what you say.

[Secret Squirrel]

sweet merciful crap!? i hope your kidding and that your genes were actually forced upon a child. Wow, if you arent kidding, tell your son i'm sorry.

Don't you ever f*** mention my kid in your bull**** rants. You can bust on politics all you want faggot but when you bring family in you better watch what you say.

the way you handle yourself really makes me feel sorry that he has a dad like you. One can only hope you actually act like an adult in the real world.

[Vance]

Why don't you **** off SS?

[Romulus]

the way you handle yourself really makes me feel sorry that he has a dad like you. One can only hope you actually act like an adult in the real world.

How bout a **** sandwich?

[Secret Squirrel]

and back to the original topic. Midav, just spend some time with her doing things you like and things that she likes. Maybe you'll find some common ground or one of you will find new interests.

[Midav]

Thanks EvanLloyd and Secret Squirrel and co!

I was kind of aiming that way.
IE, was aiming in that direction to asking her out again and see how it goes.

Just on note, yeah, I'm 28. So is she.

I've been on numerous dates before and all went ok. Just something is odd about today and I can't explain it. She is something I had imagened a woman to be-- smart, beautiful and cool to talk to.

And yeah, a friend asked me if I was gay-- No, I ain't :bash:

[Romulus]

I've been on numerous dates before and all went ok. Just something is odd about today and I can't explain it.

Don't always look at that as a bad thing either. Maybe she was nervous and thought the same way you thought about her. It happens. My first date with my wife to Chili's we talked for hours but afterwards on the way home she hardly said anything, years later she told me how nervous she was and was just hoping she wouldn't slip up and say something dumb.

[Midav]

Point taken :)

The last few minutes were odd. I know I was nervous and no idea if she was. Most probably.

Any idea where I should take her next time?

They have a local thing called river fest going on over the weekend. It's a small gathering of people that go on rafts on the river then afterward there are stands and and the like.

I thought about asking her out over sunday. She also has a younger son in school and thought asking her to bring him along if she accepts.

[scott]

if a person thinks youre gay
consider it a compliment

[StarvingStudent47]

Midav:

As for the lack-of-spark thing. Give it another date or so. You've got nothing to lose, right? If a spark appears on a second date, swell. If not, no prob.

Personally, I always preferred "fun" dates to "romantic" dates. My ideal date would be something like ski-ball or bowling (don't take her bowling if you actually bowl--only go if both of you are amateurs and want to publicly embarrass yourself while you have a beer or two).

Then again, I'm a youngster (just turned 23) so I'm not used to dating people who have kids and stuff--it's a slightly different atmosphere, I guess.

Rafting sounds like a safe bet. Shoot, even if you two get really bored of each other, you can still enjoy the rafting part, right? Not to mention adrenaline is the best ice-breaker on the planet. Those two reasons are why I always loathed dinner dates.

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Ya take her some-were on a second date were you figure both of you can be relaxed and can talk to each-other (for example go for a walk in the park and have ice cream)

Give it a second chance of course and see what happens.

[molly747]

Give it another chance. Maybe it was nerves on either of your parts. Hell, I know people that hated each other when they first met, and now they're married. Not everybody has fireworks on the first try.

[Mark Sman]

Ahhh Gwassa Hoppa . . .

Very often two people feel very opposite things on a date.

So this is good news for you. Keep playing it friendly, but calm and low key. Try to center your inner wah or some such crapola.

At this age (28) women are trying to settle peacefully like the silken halves of an elephants behind. So watch out for that. Or not.

Try to have a goal in mind such as: "Find The One", or "Smoke that ass", or even a simple one like "Free food."

Women don't like guys with no plan, and actually not having one won't work out well for you either. So pick one and "be prepared to respond the changing situation on the ground." Always good advice.

And bring a blanket.

[Mr Gently Benevolent]

Give it another couple of dates see how it develops.

[Midav]

Ty all. Do appreciate it. :D