Overcome your confidence

[Scottie]

Say some "guy" had a problem with confidence, and instead of getting proffesional help, he asks the people on www.militaryphotos.net.
What advice do you guys have in confidence, and how to over come it?

Cheers

[Herrmannek]

I choosed to be looser...There is no easy ways to overcome that problem :)

[Scottie]

Think its about time i got the double-barrel out :roll:

[Ichhabe]

I have a friend that was a "Pongo" in the Norwegian Air Force. He had absolutely no self esteem whatsoever. One night we had a conversation and he told me that he envied me and some other friends in my group cause we hade been around. That we dared to voulenteer for military service and **** like that abroad.
I said that he also could do it. It was nothing magical about it. Just a form to fill, and badabing badabang, you were abroad before you knew it.
He of course wouldnt belive that the Army wanted him, a loser and an idiot.(He also didn't have any muscles to talk about, sat home and did almost nothing when he wasn't at work)
To make a long story short; We got together some friends of mine and pepped him up. Told him to get the papers for applying military service abroad. He did that, and we helped him fill them.

7 months later I came walking down the street. And I noticed a guy comming towards me. Even though there was a distance, I noticed that this was a guy with confidence. He walked the walk tall and proud. Comming closer I reckognised him as my low self esteem friend. He said hi, and grabbed my hand. The grip was firm and not soggy as it used to be. The UN and NATO-service had fed him 3 square meals a day. And he looked quite stronger. After that, he never whined and looked like he was a born loser.

My advice after this long story is: Do something that you think you can't do. Try to go the extra distance. Don't let anyone try to pull you down. Have friends that support you rather than back mouth you and work against you.

There is of course a lot of other things you can do, but do not try to much to fast. Then you only crash & burn.

Ans last, but not least; never envy others, have trust and faith in yourself. Amen.

[molly747]

Wow. 'Nuff said.

[Scottie]

I'm just gonna have to say a big thanks Ichhabe! ty!

Tusen takk

well said

[Hawkeye]

Wow that's a neat story, would give a guy instant confidence and self-esteem

[anonymous individual]

I have a friend who is just as the same as Ichhabe's. He has zero confidence in doing anything. All he does is stay at home and does nothing. I have suggested to him to either finish high school or join the armed forces just he wants to improve himself. The reply from him is a no. After listening to that, I will try again and get his ass on track.

[Vance]

I don't know, http://www.military-photos.net is an entirely different website ;)

[Scottie]

Happy now?? :oops: :D

[WolverineBlue]

I've drugs and alcohol are the best way to overcome confidence problems. Nothing like showing to an interview all hopped up on acid to make you a star. (This truly happened to one of my jackass fraternity brothers.) rofl

[Jack Mehoff]

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[Hawkeye]

-Dress nice
-Take showers
-Brush your teeth
-Use deodorant
-Make eye contact
-Friendly
-Smiles and show those teeth even if they are crooked and **** stained yellow.
-Alway feel good about yourself and don't let some morons make you feel otherwise
-Join the military or something
-Grow some balls

Well most of them count for me, working on the last one

[Jack Mehoff]

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[Hawkeye]

If you're an ugly mug like me who only got 1/10 in hotornot

Well i am, but the only thing that doesn't count for me is: 'Join the military or something', don't forget i'm only 14

[Khabbi]

beat up some little kid , makes you feel great and full of confidence :D

[Vance]

beat up some little kid , makes you feel great and full of confidence :D
So what you're saying is, you want your ass kicked? ;)

[Khabbi]

beat up some little kid , makes you feel great and full of confidence :D
So what you're saying is, you want your ass kicked? ;)

Bring it :D

[usa320]

back when i was in highschool, particularly my first two years of it, i was a lazy SOB that had absolutely no self esteem, conifidence or happiness. I was miserable, had few friends, no job or hobby. I sat around listening to ****ing nirvana for hours on end playing atari and sega.

Then in 10th grade started working as a cart pusher and later as a cashier, and i realized i had a passion for doing business. helping customers and coworkers. I got real good at my job. Then my junior year of high school i started working at a mini mart because it paid better. after being robbed a few times i said feck it and now im back to the same store i started at. Because i had experience on register and 3 other departments i got right onto the management track withing a month of comming back to this store, and now here i am.

I enjoy working with people and doing business, and im good at it. And i take pride in doing business and thats what gives me confidence.

As much as i enjoy a career in business, it is not truly what i want to do in life.

I always have wanted to fly. Planned on joining the USAF out of high school, but a ****ed up knee and fried eyesight from years of excessive sega usage blew that shot.

So usually i am quite conifdent with my work and enjoy it, and i am glad for all ive accomplished. decent job, nice car, own apartment. had a great girlfriend for a while, but having problems here now.

But there are times when i think of what im truly capable of doing, times when i think of what i really wanted to do in life and how far away from doing it i truly am, and that kinda hurts a bit.

Someday when i have the money i will probably get some flying lessons and work my way into civilian aviation.

[UkrainianAmerican]

The ultimate goal is to not give a f*ck about things like peoples opinions. Doesnt mean you have to be an asshole to everyone, just dont give much thought to what somebody could think of you.

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In my first few years of high school I was really not very confident in myself. Part of it had to do with being very skinny, part of it with having an accent, etc. But, once you try to correct your deficiencies and care less what people can think off you, mos tof the time this will elad to other people thinking more highly of you.

[Jack Mehoff]

MP.net ruined my social life. Damn you Hood!! :lol:. It's OK, I'll get back to my social/dating life after January, 2005 when I complete a mission

[Andrewoz]

The ultimate goal is to not give a f*ck about things like peoples opinions

Second that.
I cop **** at school to no end, and have for ages about going into the Navy next year, just gotta let it roll right off "like water off a ducks back".

I set myself goals a while ago that meant alot to me, One of them was to do with physical fitness the other was to get into the navy into what i wanted to do, and as long as you have the support of those who matter most to you (like family) the **** slung at you from everyone else dosent count for anything. If your having a rough time speak to someone close to you about it, it helps to talk about your problems that your having and also isntead of letting the negative stuff thrown at you get to you, use it as motivation. I have now achieved my goals with a little help from those close to me and solid motivation , and am verry much looking foward to leaving sometime next year to serve in the navy doing what ive always wanted to do. woot

[Jack Mehoff]

Just go to a college, single clubs or whatever and talk to girls. That will help with your confidence, but make sure you make eye contact with their eyes instead of their chests. I learned that the hard way, very hard way :lol:

[Mr Gently Benevolent]

The way you dress can help improve self esteem, dress a little smarter and sharper and you soon find yourself with new found confidence, get yorself a couple of good suits, some well cut shirts and a Crombie jacket.
For me some of Donna Karan's more subdued jackets work and Full Circle leather jackets and coats are the dogs bollocks. ;)

[combat jack]

I know what you mean, I hate confidence too. Try calling yourself some names or picking a fight with the biggest dude you can find.

[Jack Mehoff]

Dancing--a dancing man is a man with confidence.

[11F5S]

I enjoy working with people and doing business, and im good at it. And i take pride in doing business and thats what gives me confidence.

What a crock! If you really took pride in what you do, the the bathrooms wouldn't be filthy...now go clean them up and don't come back here until you have them spotless.

[scm77]

:cantbeli: wtf is with all the old threads?? :lol:

[disabled1]

i had no self esteem in high school either, or atleast till 11th grde when i started dating my wife. after i got in the army it was cool to have a good job that i could be able to take us shopping and out to movies. spouses definatley are a big morale booster she's helped my confidence alot