Something serious.....

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I have a friend and she's in alot of trouble right now. She's been going threw alot lately and it seems that last night she has decided that she wants to kill herself. I dont know what to do, nobody can get ahold of her and she sent out good-bye emails to everyone she knows including myself. She made a video for a friend of mine and it seems like she might have actually done it, I've offered to help her out on a few occasions but I've had no luck...
I havent heard any news about her yet, I'm hoping she's fine and this is some sort of outcry for help.

I'd just to like to remind everyone that life is important and it does go on, there should be no reason in anyone's life to make them want to end it. Life is a gift....
I myself dont know what to do now, all I can say is I hope she's alright.....

The ßå$tĮТHÏ¿ð

[Haiw]

Sucks... :|

I've known a few people that got that ****ed up as well, but luckily they're all still alive.

[ßå$tĮТHÏ¿ð]

Ya man im a sad dude today :(

I just hope everything is alright.....

[Tane Angle]

Let me know how it goes. I hope she's ok. You might want to get to her, but if you do, make sure you drive slowly and carefully. Keep your mind on the road. I've seen people race to one emergency only to get in a car accident and then there's two emergencies.

[California Joe]

Go see her. See if she's alright.

[ßå$tĮТHÏ¿ð]

Nobody knows were she is man....nobody's been able to find her as of yet..... :(
This is the saddest day in my life

[Haiw]

Yup, you should definately go see her. Just do whatever you can... maybe even be a **** to her while at it, but she'll propably thank you for it later.

[farmgirl]

Nobody knows were she is man....nobody's been able to find her as of yet..... :(
This is the saddest day in my life


I'm sorry BC. If there is anything that any of us can do to help...even if it's just listening... you can count on many of us here. I hope you know that. Just be a good friend... be supportive. I hope you still have that chance.
my best :hug:
marydawn

[Ratamacue]

Best of luck to you and your friend. I've been in situations like yours, and they really do suck. If you can find her, you definitely need to see her.

[Tane Angle]

What farmgirl said, you call, we haul buddy.

[stateofequilibrium]

Dang man, I'm so sorry. Keep strong and keep trying to get a hold of her. Has anyone checked her place already? Or other places where she might be? Did you contact her parents? The authorities?

I just went through the whole suicidal-friend phase a few weeks ago too so believe me, I can sympathize. It was damn lucky that one of my other friends got to her place in time.. she had already downed a near killing dose of aspirins (about 100) and nyquil.. so I was woken up at like 3AM by my screaming friend and I told her to shove activated charcoal down her throat and take her to the ER. The doctors said probably one more aspirin would have killed her.

[ßå$tĮТHÏ¿ð]

Ya man im slowly losing it here....i dont know what to do...ive never been in a situation like this before.... :(
I feel real ****ty...thanks for all the help...i didnt know who else i could talk to

[Herrmannek]

Don't wait and start to look for her quickly...My friend didn't left any messages :(,she gave you chance to help. Hope she will be fine...

[ßå$tĮТHÏ¿ð]

Nobody knows were she is man....nobody's been able to find her as of yet..... :(
This is the saddest day in my life


I'm sorry BC. If there is anything that any of us can do to help...even if it's just listening... you can count on many of us here. I hope you know that. Just be a good friend... be supportive. I hope you still have that chance.
my best :hug:
marydawn
thanks farmgirl and everyone else that really means alot to me....i hope she is still alive :(

[Haiw]

I know what you mean, the 'waiting-for-news' is just one of the most awefull things in the world. Hope she makes it out okay, because suicide at such a young age is pretty much the worst thing in the world...
Just know that, whatever happens, we're there for you buddy.

[ßå$tĮТHÏ¿ð]

I've still heard nothing yet I still cant get ahold of her or any of her friends....this has bad news written all over it.... :(

[stateofequilibrium]

I've still heard nothing yet I still cant get ahold of her or any of her friends....this has bad news written all over it.... :(

If you can't help the situation I suggest either praying or doing something to take your mind off the situation but keep your phone nearby.

As I asked before, have the authorities and her parents been notified?

[ßå$tĮТHÏ¿ð]

Ya the cops know....im trying to get my mind off of it...its kinda hard though....im just praying for the best........
:(

[stateofequilibrium]

Ya the cops know....im trying to get my mind off of it...its kinda hard though....im just praying for the best........
:(

Remember though, most suicidal-attempts are a cry for help or a way to make other people feel worse and mourn their loss so she would want to be found. And since you can't get through to her friends either, perhaps they're all together. And if she DID do it, I'm sure they would've phoned you.

So have hope man!

[Chris O`Crooh]

Well... you can bring her flowers, as soon as You will have opportunity to see her. I`ve heard, that flowers are key to woman`s heart, so maybe You will be a fortunate one to help her??


As stateofequilibrium said, the suicidal attempt is - especially among the women - a cry. It`s a big chance, she sits now somewhere and cries.

God....... we would like to help both of you... Anyhow....

[duck]

If she's got a mobile with her it can be tracked even when switched off, I think. But better inform authorities a soon as possible.

[Haiw]

If she's got a mobile with her it can be tracked even when switched off, I think. But better inform authorities a soon as possible.
Yup, unless you take the batteries out mobile phones are always tracable.

[ßå$tĮТHÏ¿ð]

Yea everyone its ok she's been found. Apparently she got picked up last night by the cops, I found her in the hospital in the emergency ward. We had a good talk, and she's going to go get some help. Which im happy about.

Ya this seems to be her desperate cry for help, I'm just glad that it all worked out good. It could have been much worse....

Id like to thank everyone for there support and idea's, thanks alot. If it wasnt for you guys I'd have spent the day wandering in circles around my room. Thanks everyone :hug:

From your internet buddy
The ßå$tĮТHÏ¿ð

[Ratamacue]

Good to hear, buddy. Glad everything worked out OK.

[ArmedPacifist]

Glad to hear everything turned out okay. She's going to need support from her friends, do something really sweet for her if you can.

[stateofequilibrium]

GLAD TO HEAR THAT MAN!! That's damn good news. After she gets better is the proper time to beat up her up for making your worry so much.

[Tane Angle]

That's wonderful news that you found her. You're a good friend. Let's hope she gets the help she needs.

[farmgirl]

That's great BC. I'm so glad to hear it. You're a good friend. Continue to stand by her. :hug:

[California Joe]

I agree with the best thing since sliced bread. Glad she's OK.

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Ya I was like the first person to visit her since her parents did. She was quite happy to see me. I am planning on doing something to cheer her up...I figure some flowers or something should do the trick.

On the lighter side of things I almost tripped in the emergency room, then I tried to get myself admitted for my stomach problems (that didnt work so smooth) haha..the nurse's were telling me they didnt need another patient so they wouldnt admitt me for my stomach problems which kinda was lame. I figured it would be kinda cool at least I'd know someone in the hospital while im getting patched up.

Oh well I guess im still on the waiting list for that one....
Anyways thanks everyone I'll be accepting any idea's on how to cheer her up. Either post them here or pm me.
Thanks again I owe everyone big time :hug:
Your buddy
the ßå$tĮТHÏ¿ð

[Haiw]

Thank god it turned out well, I personally wasn't so sure about a good ending. Now it's up to the people around herto make sure it doesn't happen again. Good to see you know your role ;), you're doing great mate. Good advice: hook her up with a nice guy (not necessarily you :P).

[non-zero possibility]

:D :D :P :) :lol: :P ;) woot woot :hug:

[stateofequilibrium]

Thank god it turned out well, I personally wasn't so sure about a good ending. Now it's up to the people around herto make sure it doesn't happen again. Good to see you know your role ;), you're doing great mate. Good advice: hook her up with a nice guy (not necessarily you :P).

Eh, a relationship is probably the last thing she needs. Maybe a boy-toy yes.. but she needs to get her life in order first. And the only way she's going to get that is by a good doctor and WONDERFUL friends. Just be there for her. Tell her a joke, bring her some books, maybe a cookie or two or three. But most importantly, just talk to her.

[California Joe]

Ice cream. Chicks dig ice cream.

[ßå$tĮТHÏ¿ð]

Ice cream. Chicks dig ice cream.
Good call Joe...good call ice cream it is.

[Haiw]

Eh, a relationship is probably the last thing she needs. Maybe a boy-toy yes.. but she needs to get her life in order first. And the only way she's going to get that is by a good doctor and WONDERFUL friends. Just be there for her. Tell her a joke, bring her some books, maybe a cookie or two or three. But most importantly, just talk to her.

Well it did the trick for a girl I know... I won't go into details, but her life was FUBAR. She had already had 2 suicide attempts, and to be honest; I couldn't blame her. However, at a certain moment she got a boyfriend, and you could almost see her change, and she changed from a totally depressed person to quite a happy girl. Of course that doesn't have to work for everyone, but in her case it worked a miracle.

[stateofequilibrium]

Well it did the trick for a girl I know... I won't go into details, but her life was FUBAR. She had already had 2 suicide attempts, and to be honest; I couldn't blame her. However, at a certain moment she got a boyfriend, and you could almost see her change, and she changed from a totally depressed person to quite a happy girl. Of course that doesn't have to work for everyone, but in her case it worked a miracle.

I can see how it would work, though I can also see a dangerous negative aspect. Especially depending on what caused the suicide attempts in the first place. Such as she might have a strong inter-dependance personality, or self-esteem problems, all of which could be disastorous if the relationship does not go well. Also you'll be building up her psyche upon dependance of another person to make her feel good when she should start feeling good about herself by herself (no, not by playing with herself.. you sickos).

Those are just my .02

[Salty Dog]

nice to know we have some regular dr. phils on this site...i'm coming here if i have a problem.

[Haiw]

[I can see how it would work, though I can also see a dangerous negative aspect. Especially depending on what caused the suicide attempts in the first place. Such as she might have a strong inter-dependance personality, or self-esteem problems, all of which could be disastorous if the relationship does not go well. Also you'll be building up her psyche upon dependance of another person to make her feel good when she should start feeling good about herself by herself (no, not by playing with herself.. you sickos).

Those are just my .02

Well of course it isn't a solution when the reasons for a suicide attempt were a went-wrong relation, however against self-esteem problems it could be a good medicine. Even when the relationships end later, she might still have regained her self-esteem permanently, and yes, she might grow somewhat dependant upon it at the start, but after a while that declines. Of course I said a 'nice' guy, and not some guy that doesn't give 2 cents about what happens to her and only wants to get laid...

[Minjin]

Homemade brownies. Shows some thought and they are damned tasty. I have a good (and easy) recipe.

[buckeyedoc]

Great news. I hope everything works out. Remember, be supportive, not critical.

[Marxist203]

Ya man im a sad dude today :(

I just hope everything is alright.....

You got a car? go cruisin' Ive had chick friends say the same **** and I've usually managed to talk them out of it. I reckon all you gotta do is find em and reel em in for a group hug, that and you can force them to come home by dragging them into your car.

[ShotOver]

aah, glad to see she is O.K

I just went through the same **** man, i know what you went through... :hug:

[Chris O`Crooh]

Aye... Well, I think it is wonderful... Sth like international, allied force, we had united to do sth good, we did it...

I know, that it (above) may sound a bit stupid, but I don`t care. I feel damn good, and that is real happy end.

BC, You`re a man that everyone would like to have arm-by-arm in the foxhole!!

And sth else: how `bout writing her?? Let`s write some letters, let`s make her know, that someone worries `bout her, and happy because of her lucky finding?? We can post the letters here or send them via PM to BC... What do you think about that??

[Kriz]

Damn this topic brings back bad memories, aka one of my best friends ' father cut his wrists. He was found in the bathtub, blood and all...

:(

[ßå$tĮТHÏ¿ð]

Aye... Well, I think it is wonderful... Sth like international, allied force, we had united to do sth good, we did it...

I know, that it (above) may sound a bit stupid, but I don`t care. I feel damn good, and that is real happy end.

BC, You`re a man that everyone would like to have arm-by-arm in the foxhole!!

And sth else: how `bout writing her?? Let`s write some letters, let`s make her know, that someone worries `bout her, and happy because of her lucky finding?? We can post the letters here or send them via PM to BC... What do you think about that??

Thanks dude its an honor to have something like that said about me. I gave her a note yesterday and she read it when I left. She knows I worry about her, and shes going to get everything straightend out and her life back on track.

Now its just time to get rid of the bad influence's in her life like some of her friends....

[Nawlins]

It doesn't matter what you do, really. Anything thoughtful and sincere will let her know that you care about her and that will help. Glad things worked out for the best.

Sorry I'm joining this a little late, I was out of town and then working.

[ßå$tĮТHÏ¿ð]

It doesn't matter what you do, really. Anything thoughtful and sincere will let her know that you care about her and that will help. Glad things worked out for the best.

Sorry I'm joining this a little late, I was out of town and then working.

Its ok Nawlins thanks for the input. Any help is greatly apperciated. :hug:

[Merik]

Your a lucky dude BC. A girl I knew killed herself last year at the same spot where a childhood friend of mine died in a car crash the same year. Be a friend to her in every way that you can think of, even ways you cant.

[ßå$tĮТHÏ¿ð]

Thanks man for the advice :hug: