*Official* Give Gypsum advice thread. [Archive]

01-20-2006, 04:09 AM

mack pl

01-20-2006, 04:13 AM

So, I have completely fallen for this girl at work and I plan to ask her out tonight. However, she does have a boyfriend. I'm not worried about the competition (it's a Man Utd v Burton Albion situation).

But what do you think is the best way to approach it?

Female and homo****** opinions preferred.

kill him, problem solved....

Seiran

01-20-2006, 04:15 AM

A bit extreme, but still an alternative...

All I can say is just go up to her and ask. What's the worst that happens? She says she has a boyfriend and turns you down. Her loss and you just move on to the next office cutie that you come across.

Scottie

01-20-2006, 04:17 AM

Does she appear to flirt with you?

BoyElroy

01-20-2006, 04:27 AM

01-20-2006, 04:30 AM

Does she appear to flirt with you?

Yes. The worst case scenario is that she stays with her boyfriend out of sympathy. I don't mean to sound arrogant or anything but that's the truth.

scrybe

01-20-2006, 04:33 AM

Put in Rooney.

Eat a bullet

01-20-2006, 04:35 AM

Go for the shocker and see what happens.

01-20-2006, 04:36 AM

Go for the shocker and see what happens.

That's step 2. Always step 2.

Step 1 is the fish hook.

BoyElroy

01-20-2006, 04:38 AM

Yes. The worst case scenario is that she stays with her boyfriend out of sympathy. I don't mean to sound arrogant or anything but that's the truth.

Hmmn...if the young lady is not entirely happy in her current situation, then by all means approach her and try to make her laugh and feel happy again, since she's prob. been dealing with a lot of negative relationship stuff for awhile. The last thing she'll want to do is talk about relationships since she's prob. argued with her guy pal for days/weeks/months about the situation.

She'll prob. just want to go out and relax and have fun without feeling a lot of heavy crap hanging over her head. So don't do anything to make her feel guilty about going out with you and play it cool and you're in.

toki

01-20-2006, 04:40 AM

I have one problem with your first post: "...at work"
I see trouble at the horizon. How close do you work together?
I only work with girls in my direct surrounding. I wouldn't want to be an 'ex' of any of them. Living hell. Do you like your job? Do you plan to stay there? How big is your company?

For the boyfriend: Don't even think about it. You're not jealous, right?
Don't start to mention him and don't force her. Just make her seeing all good times with you. Some girls drop boyfriends like hot potatoes if they're into 'finding themselves' :lol: and it's time to 'move on'. How old is she?

Ahh, i can't believe i'm giving you an honest opinion. :lol:

as for the approach, you don't drink, that's good, maybe get her tipsy but not drunk. And maybe sip a drink, too. Just don't do that 1 on 1 date. Move her to a fun place without that candle light atmosphere. Touch her while dancing... :lol: "in a friendly way", you know that stuff i hope. And then keep a lower profile again. Don't run after her. Let her admire you.

scrybe

01-20-2006, 04:40 AM

Take Ferdinand out. He's lazy. That one guy said so...

01-20-2006, 04:42 AM

Well, if she's in love with the other guy, you've got no chance and you shouldn't mess with it in any case. OTOH, if she's iffy about her boyfriend and you manage to get her to dump the chump, then you've won yourself a highly undependable girlfriend who'll prob. do the same to you at some point. Mazeltov!

You're right. I've considered the same thing, but it's not really like that. She's a very genuine person, I think she's just been going out with this guy because she thinks she has to.

01-20-2006, 04:48 AM

I have one problem with your first post: "...at work"
I see trouble at the horizon. How close do you work together?
I only work with girls in my direct surrounding. I wouldn't want to be an 'ex' of any of them. Living hell. Do you like your job? Do you plan to stay there? How big is your company?

For the boyfriend: Don't even think about it. You're not jealous, right?
Don't start to mention him and don't force her. Just make her seeing all good times with you. Some girls drop boyfriends like hot potatoes if they're into 'finding themselves' :lol: and it's time to 'move on'. How old is she?

Ahh, i can't believe i'm giving you an honest opinion. :lol:

1) The job is a stop gap for both of us. She's starting a new job next week, but she'll still be working weekends. I'm only working there for the free training/qualifications until other plans come together.

2) Good point. She's 19.

3) :lol:

shorty

01-20-2006, 04:50 AM

Pssh...I'm not even gonna date seriously until I'm 21. Besides..women don't know what they want until around 23 or so....

toki

01-20-2006, 04:50 AM

1) The job is a stop gap for both of us. She's starting a new job next week, but she'll still be working weekends. I'm only working there for the free training/qualifications until other plans come together.

2) Good point. She's 19.

3) :lol:
i edited a fourth point to my post. :lol:.

Pssh...I'm not even gonna date seriously until I'm 21. Besides..women don't know what they want until around 23 or so....
WRONG, young padavan. They can be childish undecisive bitches with 27 (believe me :-() and some are honest and genuine with 19. Don't make the black and white rules.

Scottie

01-20-2006, 04:53 AM

Take it nice and slowly... ask her out for lunch?

and for crying out loud.
be yourself... don't be Gypsum Fantastic!

Scottie

01-20-2006, 04:54 AM

Pssh...I'm not even gonna date seriously until I'm 21. Besides..women don't know what they want until around 23 or so....
BIG WRONG p-)

Eat a bullet

01-20-2006, 04:54 AM

That's step 2. Always step 2.

Step 1 is the fish hook.
Hmm... Well, that ain't what my pappy taught me. He said you gotta start off with the shocker to find out if she's a good egg or not.

shorty

01-20-2006, 04:55 AM

i edited a fourth point to my post. :lol:.

WRONG, young padavan. They can be childish undecisive bitches with 27 (believe me :-() and some are honest and genuine with 19. Don't make the black and white rules. Ahhh, Yes Yes very true. I'm just speaking from "local" experience.....

moughoun

01-20-2006, 05:03 AM

for enough money I could make the BF "disappear" for youp-)

scrybe

01-20-2006, 05:08 AM

Gypsum does this chick have a ***** by any chance?

EDIT: Son of a bitch! I wasted post number 4000 in this thread! Atleast I was drunk...

01-20-2006, 05:09 AM

Gypsum does this chick have a ***** by any chance?

No, other than that she's perfect.

toki

01-20-2006, 05:36 AM

No, other than that she's perfect.
Now what is your plan now? I mean you have to ask her(him?) before you finish work. :lol: that would leave enough time to inform us about your game-plan.
Where dou you want to go with her?

Hydro

01-20-2006, 05:37 AM

Where dou you want to go with her?

He wants to go aaaaall the way, baby.

toki

01-20-2006, 05:40 AM

He wants to go aaaaall the way, baby.
drunken fingerbanging in a nightclub next to a brawl doesn't count. :lol:

Nah Gypsum, tell us.

Deftoner

01-20-2006, 05:41 AM

No, other than that she's perfect.

Ha ha...had to read that twice.

Act gay...become her best friend, once your in there... slowly lose your gayness and convince her she "changed" you. She will feel a sense of accomplishment and feel ******ly drawn to you.

Heres where you have the choice to "keep or lose". If you "keep" give her flowers and all that. If you "lose" become "gay" again.

WTF?

toki

01-20-2006, 05:43 AM

Ha ha...had to read that twice.

Act gay...become her best friend, once your in there... slowly lose your gayness and convince her she "changed" you. She will feel a sense of accomplishment and feel ******ly drawn to you.

Heres where you have the choice to "keep or lose". If you "keep" give her flowers and all that. If you "lose" become "gay" again.

WTF?
Stop watching TV....
This plot is old. ;-)

Hydro

01-20-2006, 05:44 AM

drunken fingerbanging in a nightclub next to a brawl doesn't count. :lol:

I don't know, it got me where I am today.

Deftoner

01-20-2006, 05:45 AM

Stop watching TV....
This plot is old. ;-)

It always works on tv doesn't it.... p-)

Hydro

01-20-2006, 05:48 AM

It always works on tv doesn't it.... p-)

So do the A-Teams inventions, but I'm not going to bother telling you about the last time I welded some corrugated tin around my bicycle and duct taped some oil drums to the front and rode into a military base firing off automatic weapons.

Oh yeah, advice....Gyppo...errr...get in there!!!

*smug look of advice well given*

01-20-2006, 05:49 AM

Now what is your plan now? I mean you have to ask her(him?) before you finish work. :lol: that would leave enough time to inform us about your game-plan.
Where dou you want to go with her?

It is a woman by the way... :lol:

My shift today finishes the same time hers starts (5pm). But we always stand around chatting for a while.

The plan is just to give her my phone number, tell her what I think and let her make the decision to call me. Leave the ball in her court so to speak.

I think that avoids any awkward situations.

toki

01-20-2006, 05:50 AM

I don't know, it got me where I am today.
Your first grandson with 30?

01-20-2006, 05:51 AM

I don't know, it got me where I am today.

Prison?....

Deftoner

01-20-2006, 05:51 AM

this thread is so......emo.

Hydro

01-20-2006, 05:53 AM

Prison?....

I'm only on remand.

Anyway, I'll tell you what I told the Magistrate - I thought the cop was a prostitute.

Deftoner

01-20-2006, 05:56 AM

So do the A-Teams inventions, but I'm not going to bother telling you about the last time I welded some corrugated tin around my bicycle and duct taped some oil drums to the front and rode into a military base firing off automatic weapons.

Oh yeah, advice....Gyppo...errr...get in there!!!

*smug look of advice well given*

Pictures or it didn't happen.

Hydro

01-20-2006, 05:58 AM

http://users.ox.ac.uk/~biscott/imlang/irony/cyclepath.JPG

A black day for all.

01-20-2006, 05:59 AM

this thread is so......emo.

http://www.militaryphotos.net/forums/image.php?u=7922&dateline=1132956907&type=profile

Digital Marine

01-20-2006, 06:02 AM

http://users.ox.ac.uk/~biscott/imlang/irony/cyclepath.JPG

A black day for all.

That's horrible.

Eat a bullet

01-20-2006, 06:07 AM

http://www.militaryphotos.net/forums/image.php?u=7922&dateline=1132956907&type=profile
Emu + shocker = Awesome!

Deftoner

01-20-2006, 06:12 AM

http://www.militaryphotos.net/forums/image.php?u=7922&dateline=1132956907&type=profile

I shed a tear...thats..*sniff* just...so.....sad.

*runs of to get a shaggy haircut*

D.Ranger

01-20-2006, 07:22 AM

And here I thought you were gay....

nagant_m44

01-20-2006, 07:34 AM

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/0/09/Gypsum.jpg
omg its gypsum!

Thor

01-20-2006, 08:41 AM

So, I have completely fallen for this girl at work and I plan to ask her out tonight. However, she does have a boyfriend. I'm not worried about the competition (it's a Man Utd v Burton Albion situation).

But what do you think is the best way to approach it?
Do her and have a collegue tell her boyfriend :)

Edit: but remember that girls are like monkeys in the trees; they don't let go of one branch unless they have a grip of another one. p-)

Hellfish

01-20-2006, 08:53 AM

What makes you think she's got the hots for you?

operaattori

01-20-2006, 08:57 AM

Just get drunk and forget her.

Johnny_H02

01-20-2006, 09:04 AM

Ill give you the same advice I would give anyone, just do what your gut tells you is right, I couldnt be happier and thats what I am doin you just have to know without even the slightest shadow of a doubt that what your doin is right.

Bia

01-20-2006, 09:41 AM

So, I have completely fallen for this girl at work and I plan to ask her out tonight. However, she does have a boyfriend. I'm not worried about the competition
But what do you think is the best way to approach it?

Female and homo****** opinions preferred.
Just dont be arrogant towards her current BF when talking to her.
Act as if he's simply some guy who's number is about up and you're going to cut in....but politely.
Also...best advice is dont act too eager or desperate. Act as if she rejects you....no biggie....you're going to keep on truckin and too bad she missed her chance. That way if she says no at first.....you'll be in her mind for days or weeks and that's where you want to be....in her thoughts.
If you're a good man....she'll reconsider.
Just gotta remain cool as ice.

Also...very important..
Being truely cool is not caring how cool others think you are.
;)

Good luck....go get her!

Bia

01-20-2006, 09:48 AM

Pssh...I'm not even gonna date seriously until I'm 21. Besides..women don't know what they want until around 23 or so....

BUZZZZ

Try again.

California Joe

01-20-2006, 11:11 AM

I'm not going to date seriously till I'm 45.

By then the cops will have taken me off the list of suspects in my wifes dissapearance.

Bia

01-20-2006, 11:13 AM

Dating is ok I suppose.
But I'll never marry or have puppies!

Ruledbyjames

01-20-2006, 11:20 AM

Is he uglier then Wayne Rooney? At least he has money! Does he have any money?

ed316

01-20-2006, 11:21 AM

toki

01-20-2006, 11:23 AM

Dating is ok I suppose.
But I'll never marry or have puppies!

The american concept of "dating" is confusing to most europeans anyway (at least to me). How can you date someone for a year, or what's "serious" dating? Here you would only call the first few rendezvous 'dating'. Anything further is just having a girlfriend (or not) or having a f*** relationship ("Fickbeziehung" how we call it here :lol:).

Bia

01-20-2006, 11:29 AM

The american concept of "dating" is confusing to most europeans anyway (at least to me). How can you date someone for a year, or what's "serious" dating? Here you would only call the first few rendezvous 'dating'. Anything further is just having a girlfriend (or not) or having a f*** relationship ("Fickbeziehung" how we call it here :lol:).

Well....when you dont put out....the dating doesnt go on for a year.
They move on. ;)

toki

01-20-2006, 11:44 AM

Well....when you dont put out....the dating doesnt go on for a year.
They move on. ;)
I know, but it's just a language thing. Dating sounds like just having dinner and talking, maybe a bit more. I heard american girls tell me "I dated him for 2 years". First i was "wtf?", then i got it. You just call having a boyfriend/girlfriend "dating". Weird if you ask me. But pretty irrelevant.

My shift today finishes the same time hers starts (5pm). But we always stand around chatting for a while.

Haha. 5pm england is in 20 minutes. Gypsum already has a nervous rash by now. Dry mouth? :lol:

Don't forget to say something. hehe

HooyahCQB

01-20-2006, 12:06 PM

Don't dip your pen in the company ink.

01-20-2006, 12:58 PM

What makes you think she's got the hots for you?

Evolution. I have high quality seed.

I have just got home and it was a resounding success. Thank you all for your support.

ed316

01-20-2006, 12:59 PM

Evolution. I have high quality seed.

I have just got home and it was a resounding success. Thank you all for your support.

So where are you going to take her?

Hellfish

01-20-2006, 01:01 PM

Evolution. I have high quality seed.

I have just got home and it was a resounding success. Thank you all for your support.

Details, man, details.

01-20-2006, 01:03 PM

So where are you going to take her?
Anywhere she lets me.

P.S. This is a joke. I am not an arsehole.

ed316

01-20-2006, 01:06 PM

Anywhere she lets me.

P.S. This is a joke. I am not an arsehole.

That's good you are taking her out. I say Congrats, if the boyfriend was doing his job she wouldn't seek out a sexy hunk of man meat like you out.

PS. How is Macs gonna take this?

jaybird13

01-20-2006, 01:08 PM

Any girl/guy that cheats on her boy/girl friend is a piece of garbage. If you're not happy with someone just break up with them.

ed316

01-20-2006, 01:10 PM

Any girl/guy that cheats on her boy/girl friend is a piece of garbage. If you're not happy with someone just break up with them.

Like I said if he was doing his job Gypsum would be out of a job

01-20-2006, 01:31 PM

Any girl/guy that cheats on her boy/girl friend is a piece of garbage. If you're not happy with someone just break up with them.

I agree. It's not cheating, I wouldn't want to be with someone who would cheat. We're doing everything the proper way.

Ruledbyjames

01-20-2006, 01:35 PM

Congrats man!! Now make sure you dont bring her to Abrakababra and blow your chance.......bring her somewhere classy like Burger king or the local shell garage station :)

toki

01-20-2006, 01:35 PM

I agree. It's not cheating, I wouldn't want to be with someone who would cheat. We're doing everything the proper way.
If she's 'cheating in her mind' it's working out sooner or later. Don't force it too much.
Good Luck.

I have to take a sounding here tonight, too. Let's see.
out

Name Taken

01-20-2006, 03:13 PM

I told you, I can't argue unless you've paid.

Bryson C

01-20-2006, 04:13 PM

I'm not going to date seriously till I'm 45.

By then the cops will have taken me off the list of suspects in my wifes dissapearance.

I'll be sure to tip the cops off. :)

Rammy

01-20-2006, 04:38 PM

Pics?

..............

toki

01-23-2006, 02:38 PM

Ahem... *cough*
this thread is worthless without an UPDATE

Gypsum? p-)

Apathy

01-23-2006, 03:10 PM

Lol Update.

ZOMG! Someone like proper cased my capz!!!! LOLOLOL!

01-24-2006, 05:43 AM

toki

01-24-2006, 05:48 AM

Update: So, we've gone out a couple of times and it was ok. She is amazingly hot, but she doesn't understand my jokes. That is a major problem. But i'll see how it goes. She is really nice, but i'm still judging people by unattainable standards. It's my own fault.
No it's not your fault. Lacking humor, understanding or anything like it is a major turn off, if you ask me. Many girls look gorgeous and can be smart(!) but still live on another planet. Especially with the concept of "Randomness". I'm not speaking of insider jokes, of course!

01-24-2006, 06:30 AM

No it's not your fault. Lacking humor, understanding or anything like it is a major turn off, if you ask me. Many girls look gorgeous and can be smart(!) but still live on another planet. Especially with the concept of "Randomness". I'm not speaking of insider jokes, of course!

I totally agree. The thing is, I knew a girl who was amazingly intelligent, quick witted and beautiful and every girl I meet is compared to that standard. I know it's pretty unattainable but I don't want to settle for less.

toki

01-24-2006, 07:17 AM

I totally agree. The thing is, I knew a girl who was amazingly intelligent, quick witted and beautiful and every girl I meet is compared to that standard. I know it's pretty unattainable but I don't want to settle for less.
You maybe have to stop comparing apples to oranges, but not lowering your "humor" standards. Nothing worse then the need to explain why you find a situaiton funny and still just seeing a blank expression in your opposite.

An example. I posted something about being in the zoo with my girlfriend in the moose-thread. If you find it highly entertaining that a snake bubble farts in it's aquarium, the zoo in helsinki has not a single elk and you admire baboons because of their big red asses and your girlfriend is just (??????) she's maybe not your match. Being together means laughing about the same random stuff. Nothing is better then seeing your girlfriend in tears laughing about something you find funny, too. How creepy , random or stupid it may be. If the hotness and intelligence is added everything is cool. (Unfortunately the person i was talking about was my first and last longdistance relationship. Nothing is perfect. :| )

Deftoner

01-24-2006, 08:00 AM

Crack a fart in front of her... if she laughs then she's the one.

Good Luck
Mark

gaz

01-24-2006, 09:00 AM

Crack a fart in front of her... if she laughs then she's the one.

Good Luck
Mark

I say Hurl. If you blow chunks and she comes back she's yours. If you spew and she bolts it was never meant to be.

01-24-2006, 09:36 AM

I say Hurl. If you blow chunks and she comes back she's yours. If you spew and she bolts it was never meant to be.

Ah yes. An immortal pearl of wisdom I have never forgotten...

MARINO

01-24-2006, 09:56 AM

become a monk, that's the easy way.

Bob Lawbla

01-24-2006, 10:38 AM

I know it's pretty unattainable but I don't want to settle for less.

Look....Your British, so scale it down a bit.

Seriously, she is who she is. Don't think for a second that you are going to change her. Don't forget the old adage that opposites attract. It is still very early in the relationship and she still has her guards up. Tell her how beautiful she is and how good she smells and dresses and do not upset her. Take your time. If she likes you, she will show you.