Defining moment(s) in your life

[Hellfish]

So I'm kinda bored sitting in my hotel room.

Looking back on your life so far, what are some of the defining moments that make you the person you are today? Good moments, bad moments, zeniths and nadirs, whatever.

For me, the first would be when I was 7 and some older kids made fun of my Jason mask on Halloween, and I've been fairly anti-social since then. The second would be when I arrived at basic training and I learned pretty fast that the world is lonely and violent and you've got nobody to rely on but yourself. Concurrent with that is the moment in basic I realized I wasn't a total pansy and was able to walk up the side of a building with only a rope. Finally, the final defining moment is a toss up between my ex-fiancee and I breaking up and adopting my dog. Both taught me serious lessons in responsibility.

Not exactly happy defining moments, but I am eternally grateful for each one, as I'm pretty content with the person I am now.

How about you? :)

[<Gypsum Fantastic>]

Getting dropped on the head as a baby.

[hell]

Can't think of any defining moments in life right now, maybe something will come to me. Closest thing I can think of is when I was about 13 or 14, and my father all of a sudden felt like hanging out with me.

It really helped to re-enforce my non-existent relationship with my own father when he kept asking how old I am and what grade I'm in.

Oh well, I finally accepted him for who he is, and hang out with him occasionally. His stories from when he was in boot camp and Vietnam are good.

[titget]

In my adolescent years, I was picked on and bullied pretty bad for being dorky and weird looking...It made me realize first off that kids can be cruel assholes..but most of all, that I will never pick on those who are different or "dorky" .. even today I still can't stand those who pick on the little guy, So that period was very defining for me... made me realize how people should be treated...(except for assholes, I will always treat them like sh^t)

And even more defining was *girl moment comming* being pregnant and giving birth to my daughter.. Being pregnant is one of the most beautiful experiances...and having a child really puts life into perspective...Being a mom is the greatest gift I could ever ask for...It has truley made me a better, kinder, happier person.

[farmgirl]

1) the day my daughter was born... everything changed for me... my priorities instantly changed... I was amazed by that

2) the day my son was born... things didn't change as much... except I knew just how quickly those "little kid" days would go by... this allowed me to enjoy him more as a baby

3) the day my husband died... again... everything changed for me. He had been my boyfriend, my best friend and/or my husband since I was 15 years old, and I didn't know what I was going to do. I remember telling someone that my life was over. I guess it made me realize that I am stronger than I thought I was...

4) the day I became a teacher... I had never had a job I love so much.... where I look forward to going to work each day.... where I feel like I can make a difference

5) the day I realized I was in love again... I wasn't sure it would ever happen... wasn't sure I could be that fortunate again.... it made me realize that everything was going to be okay

[BadKarma26]

When I got my first period; I realized that I had finally become a woman and consequently all the responsibilities that came along with that.

[buckeyedoc]

I have had several defining moments in my life.

1. 3/17/96: The day Zach, our first son, was born
2. 3/20/96: The day Zach died and I realized that parents should never bury their children
3. 9/26/99: Hannah was born. My little peanut (as I call her), is the best daughter a dad could ask for. She's a great big sister
4. 4/9/01: Titus was born. My little spaz is a good kid and a great big brother.
5. 3/20/04: The day I left my ex-wife. woot woot woot
6. 4/29/05: Got re-married to the best woman in the world.
7. 8/27/05: Brayden was born.

[Laconian]

Ranked chronologically not in importance:
1. Graduating West Point - a child hood dream come true
2. Getting married - 20 yrs and counting best wife in the world
3. Leaving the Army - drastic life change
4. Daughter born - 1st child being a dad changed a bunch of priorities
5. Son born - 1st son to a 1st son. Proud dad, proud pop-pop

[MrScruff]

http://www.thatvideosite.com/view/2041.html
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[Maine Finn]

Joining the Army.

Becoming MOSQ as a 91W.

Finding out that my unit is going to deploy without me.

Figuring out that the people back home who said I wasn't gonna be anything are stupid motherf*ckers and I can't wait to get back there to show 'em up hardcore.

[Falco]

When my sister was born, when I got accepted in flightschool, when I met my girlfriend and when my father died.

[Haiw]

Between the age of 7 and 15-16...

[Aerosoul]

1. Parents' divorce at age 7.
2. Expelled from first school in 3rd grade.
3. Boarding school experience in 5th-7th grades.
4. Bipolar diagnosis at 14. Suicide threats and attempts prior/after.
5. Coming back to Nashville from boarding school, returning to old school I was kicked out of in 5th grade.
6. Drug use, continuing to this day.
7. Friend's murder.
8. 18th birthday, when I "came out."
9. Losing the greatest relationship I have ever had, still trying to find a way to move on/cope with it.
10. Diagnosis of an uncuruable disease. Take a wild guess.

There's a couple more in between but I shouldn't say.

[Haiw]

10. Diagnosis of an uncuruable disease. Take a wild guess.
Homo******ity?










(FG is gonna have my head... :oops:)




(yea yea just joking allright?)


P.S. drug use with your 'problems' and medication is one of the worst things you could do. Seriously.

[Zarathustra]

Being kicked out of highschool and then of the army didn't make my life a lot better... There's been better things since that though.

[Resurrection]

Being kicked out of highschool and then of the army didn't make my life a lot better... There's been better things since that though.

Why'd you get kicked out of the army?

[Andreas]

various arrests, fistfights and other crap. In retrospect puts a lot into context regarding some parts of my childhood... Things always come back to haunt you, there is no running away...

RIP. "Garry", "Mikki",

Nah im not in the mood to elaborate further..

Peace out

[XxDualityxX]

I was shot when I was three so know I have a scar and a reminder of the place where I came from and the place I am never going back to. I got exposed to the harsh reality of life at a young age which makes me want to excel and define myself and better society.

[Zarathustra]

Why'd you get kicked out of the army?
I joined up by 17 yo and I was probably too young for the army... I was pretty good for the training and sports, not too bad in classes either ( history, learning grades etc ) but I f*cked up too many things later in my work there...

That plus my regular absence make them want to get rid of me, they did.

Basically, the same happened while in highschool.

Learning from the mistake of the past...:roll:

[titget]

I was shot when I was three so know I have a scar and a reminder of the place where I came from and the place I am never going back to. I got exposed to the harsh reality of life at a young age which makes me want to excel and define myself and better society.

Wow..very deep, you sound like a very smart person XX..best of luck to you in your future

[LaoSexMachine]

When I came to America in 82. This country gave my family a new start and I love America more then the country of my birth.

[Will938]

When I came to America in 82. This country gave my family a new start and I love America more then the country of my birth.

Look, its a model immigrant.

A couple defining moments were passing some really hard college classes and building a couple cars from the ground up. It made me realize that I can do what I put my mind to. Funny as it sounds working on cars has taught me a lot about life. I'm sure I'm missing like, 50 other moments.

I think I'm gonna head to the bathroom and have a defining moment.

[LaoSexMachine]

Look, its a model immigrant.

.

American citizen since 88 ;-)

[HoboWithAK]

Can't think of any defining moments in life right now, maybe something will come to me. Closest thing I can think of is when I was about 13 or 14, and my father all of a sudden felt like hanging out with me.

It really helped to re-enforce my non-existent relationship with my own father when he kept asking how old I am and what grade I'm in.

Oh well, I finally accepted him for who he is, and hang out with him occasionally. His stories from when he was in boot camp and Vietnam are good.

I find that when I look back, my relationship with my father was more like he hung with me so he could say he was a good dad, and I hung with him to say I had one. A waste of time, really.

[Will938]

American citizen since 88 ;-)

Excuse me my fellow American.

[Laconian]

I find that when I look back, my relationship with my father was more like he hung with me so he could say he was a good dad, and I hung with him to say I had one. A waste of time, really.

I am very sorry for you. My father was one of the most important people in my life (other than the obvious sperm donation) growing up. When we were kids he'd come home from work and play steady QB or pitcher or teach the finer points of some game with the kids in the neighborhood. He taught me to shoot and responsibility for firearms. Took me fishing. He made me work around the house and with him. Whether we were shingling a roof, fixing the car or I was GI'ing the garbage can; he made me do every job correctly. He instilled the traits of self-denial, self-discipline, honor and duty to family and country. He was hard, fair, loving and funny. He was an excellent teacher.

As I got older, he taught me how to be a man by leading by example. But we were never friends, and I can't emphasize how important that was. As we are now older he has become more valuable than a friend. He has given me some very big shoes to fill with my own kids...

[hell]

I find that when I look back, my relationship with my father was more like he hung with me so he could say he was a good dad, and I hung with him to say I had one. A waste of time, really.

Yea, I can understand that. My father just started wanting to do things with me around 13-14 because he had treated my brother like sh*t for so long my brother didn't want anything to do with him. A few years later I ended up getting really pissed at my father and didn't speak to him for about 5 years. I see him every few weeks now, I just wrote the past off and decided to move on.

[Fargin]

I am very sorry for you. My father was one of the most important people in my life (other than the obvious sperm donation) growing up. When we were kids he'd come home from work and play steady QB or pitcher or teach the finer points of some game with the kids in the neighborhood. He taught me to shoot and responsibility for firearms. Took me fishing. He made me work around the house and with him. Whether we were shingling a roof, fixing the car or I was GI'ing the garbage can; he made me do every job correctly. He instilled the traits of self-denial, self-discipline, honor and duty to family and country. He was hard, fair, loving and funny. He was an excellent teacher.

As I got older, he taught me how to be a man by leading by example. But we were never friends, and I can't emphasize how important that was. As we are now older he has become more valuable than a friend. He has given me some very big shoes to fill with my own kids...
I just wanted to qoute this posts. By you eloquent depiction of your roll model, it sounds to me, like your father has made perfectly sure you know exactly which shoes fill and that's probably half the way. All you got to do is remember your fathers face.

[wormie]

1. Parents' divorce at age 7.
2. Expelled from first school in 3rd grade.
3. Boarding school experience in 5th-7th grades.
4. Bipolar diagnosis at 14. Suicide threats and attempts prior/after.
5. Coming back to Nashville from boarding school, returning to old school I was kicked out of in 5th grade.
6. Drug use, continuing to this day.
7. Friend's murder.
8. 18th birthday, when I "came out."
9. Losing the greatest relationship I have ever had, still trying to find a way to move on/cope with it.
10. Diagnosis of an uncuruable disease. Take a wild guess.

There's a couple more in between but I shouldn't say.
www.livejournal.com

[HoboWithAK]

I am very sorry for you.

Don't be. I'm not. I was brought up by my grandfather and my uncle as the male authority in my life, and I learned at a young age to put those emotions away and not look back. Probably one of the best things about my childhood was that I didn't go through rough times badly.

[Laconian]

Good for you, then. I'm glad they were able to fill that part of your life. Boys need men to nuture and guide them.

[dave81]

*girl moment comming* Yes, I love those moments too.

[Fargin]

Yes, I love those moments too.
It's not the kind of moment that reacures every twentyeight day, is it?

[Greek soldier]

Age 15: Failed in first grade of Greek High School, had to go to a private one, because of all these I lost my friends :(

Age 18: Had a fight while trying to stop a guy that was ridiculing me and ended up in hospital, with eye surgery. And that's the reason I give a 5hit about society.

[Hydro]

Parents divorce when I was aged 16, when I was a moody teenager coping with exam stress. Opened the trapdoor into outright severe depression, and none of your emo teenage crap either. Ended up with expulsion from school and a *really* rocky relationship with my dad. No bowl of peaches at the time, but I learnt some serious lessons.

The incident that happened earlier this week (won't elaborate) but has finally made me realise exactly the type of person I am and what I am willing to sacrifice.

The harshest moments in life are sometimes the best opportunities to take a long hard look into your own mind.

[Aerosoul]

The harshest moments in life are sometimes the best opportunities to take a long hard look into your own mind.
i fully agree.

[Doc12]

-When I was an army medic and was forced to take responsibility for my actions for the first time in my life. I also learned a lot about myself , what I´m capable of and what my limitations are.
-The first time I saw somebody die. I really had to come to terms with my own mortality.
-When I got accepted to medical school. I couldn´t imagine doing anything else with my life.
-Until last year I had a pretty frosty relationship with my father. We finally managed to work things out as I realized that life is too short to be wasted on bitterness and principles.

[titget]

Yes, I love those moments too.

hahaha ........ smartass:)

[kapral]

when my doctor said, that i have ass cancer

[Captain Cabinet]

hmmm
-Moving to England (love the place!)
-Going to University, get the feeling that I'm going to look back at it as the best time of my life, had so many laughs and general experiences. Its really changed who I am
-Catching my first (and only) long term girlfriend sucking off some guy in my own bloody toilet (the cheek!). Actually find it quite funny now, but was absolutely devasted at the time.

[Violet Fashion by Mindy]

Realising there was more to life then your stereotypical australian way of life.

[askDNA]

Realising there was more to life then your stereotypical australian way of life.

alcoholism?

[Violet Fashion by Mindy]

Well

Yes I am an alcoholic. But thats not what I meant.

[jedisponge]

As a New York City teenager, I saw how lucky this country is compared to many others, and how lucky I am to live a fairly sheltered, happy and easy life, 9/11 has set me on a path that I forsee as one with great grief and time-defining moments.

[ABNINF]

1. My dad passing away

2. My son being born!