Is internet flirting cheating?

[Jack Mehoff]

This is one of those articles that you find linked to your mail box. I wonder if you agree with the text. I would like to hear your opinions.


A committed relationship is all about intimate emotional involvement with another. If you are feeling passion toward someone besides your partner — if you can’t wait to get to your computer to e-mail with another man — you are taking time and energy away from your current relationship. And, chances are, it’s all a fantasy! With someone you haven’t met, you imagine all kinds of wonderful traits and no horrible ones. You think you know him well from your frequent notes, but it’s easy for anyone to sound terrific in an e-mail. People can edit their words to make themselves convey any kind of impression they want. Your feelings are toward somebody who probably doesn’t exist in the fantasy form you have conjured up. (And if you do make the mistake of arranging to meet after your hot-and-heavy correspondence, you are 99 percent guaranteed to be tremendously disappointed.) Even worse, such a fake relationship is highly likely to erode your current one. Inevitably, you will compare this fantasy man with the man you have, who can’t help but fall short. A real man — with all his faults, lovable or not — can never measure up to a fantasy. You haven’t been with him when he’s grouchy. You have no idea how he deals with bad moods, or whether he has highly annoying habits. Maybe he talks non-stop, or maybe he grunts more than he speaks. Maybe he chews tobacco or never goes to the dentist or watches sports day and night. Your feelings are toward somebody who probably doesn’t exist in the fantasy form you have conjured up. (And if you do make the mistake of arranging to meet after your hot-and-heavy correspondence, you are 99 percent guaranteed to be tremendously disappointed.)

Instead of focusing on your text-based fantasy man, you should look inside yourself and examine why it is you are going outside your committed relationship for passion and excitement. Quite often, such a flirtation is a sign that you are in some way dissatisfied or bored with your partner.
It is a much better use of your time to work on your current relationship than to pursue one that is both unlikely to produce any kind of satisfaction as well as to undermine the bond with your partner. All three of you might end up getting hurt.
I suggest you bid your pen-pal a polite farewell and then block his e-mail address.

[mocking_loudly_died]

No.

Sticking your nob into a girl is cheating, anything else is fair game.
Hail me.

[Seoulstriker]

i don't know what most people call 'cheating', but I rather call it endangering a relationship. and what people call 'merely flirting' or just talking can lead to something much more dangerous. there is the element of fantasy, and you will eventually want to act on your fantasies.

my advice: if you are dating someone or are married to someone (especially when married), that person better be your only fantasy/whatever. otherwise, you are introducing a crack in your relationship which can grow and grow until it's too late.

[Truthsayer]

Only if wearing a push-up brah in a nightclub as a woman is cheating... ;)


Well, would say, flirting isn't, thinking about others are.

[Jack Mehoff]

Seems like the article was written by a girl who got burned. I love my wife very much, but I still flirt with other chicks online. What I consider as cheating is when I go around spreading my seeds.

[mocking_loudly_died]

i don't know what most people call 'cheating', but I rather call it endangering a relationship. and what people call 'merely flirting' or just talking can lead to something much more dangerous. there is the element of fantasy, and you will eventually want to act on your fantasies.

my advice: if you are dating someone or are married to someone (especially when married), that person better be your only fantasy/whatever. otherwise, you are introducing a crack in your relationship which can grow and grow until it's too late.

You need a threesome bad.

[Jack Mehoff]

i don't know what most people call 'cheating', but I rather call it endangering a relationship. and what people call 'merely flirting' or just talking can lead to something much more dangerous. there is the element of fantasy, and you will eventually want to act on your fantasies.

my advice: if you are dating someone or are married to someone (especially when married), that person better be your only fantasy/whatever. otherwise, you are introducing a crack in your relationship which can grow and grow until it's too late.

Sorry Seoul, I don't take advice from a virgin monkey.

[California Joe]

eatin' ain't cheatin'

[EvanL]

i don't know what most people call 'cheating', but I rather call it endangering a relationship. and what people call 'merely flirting' or just talking can lead to something much more dangerous. there is the element of fantasy, and you will eventually want to act on your fantasies.

my advice: if you are dating someone or are married to someone (especially when married), that person better be your only fantasy/whatever. otherwise, you are introducing a crack in your relationship which can grow and grow until it's too late.
And what do you know about relationships?
:backhand:

[mocking_loudly_died]

i don't know what most people call 'cheating', but I rather call it endangering a relationship. and what people call 'merely flirting' or just talking can lead to something much more dangerous. there is the element of fantasy, and you will eventually want to act on your fantasies.


my advice: if you are dating someone or are married to someone (especially when married), that person better be your only fantasy/whatever. otherwise, you are introducing a crack in your relationship which can grow and grow until it's too late.
And what do you know about relationships?
:backhand:

Seventh Heaven.

[California Joe]

Buffy the Vampire Slayer.

[EvanL]

i don't know what most people call 'cheating', but I rather call it endangering a relationship. and what people call 'merely flirting' or just talking can lead to something much more dangerous. there is the element of fantasy, and you will eventually want to act on your fantasies.


my advice: if you are dating someone or are married to someone (especially when married), that person better be your only fantasy/whatever. otherwise, you are introducing a crack in your relationship which can grow and grow until it's too late.
And what do you know about relationships?
:backhand:

Seventh Heaven.
Sorry i dont watch the WB. ;)

[Seoulstriker]

WTF, guys. You don't need to be in a relationship to know what a proper one is. It's like if I said prostitution is bad but I have never partaken. Come on, guys, be sensible.

[EvanL]

WTF, guys. You don't need to be in a relationship to know what a proper one is. It's like if I said prostitution is bad but I have never partaken. Come on, guys, be sensible.Blah Blah Blah. be sensible. Blah Blah Blah. I have no life. Blah Blah Blah. Im fat.
Dear Sally.........Shut up!

[Seoulstriker]

WTF, guys. You don't need to be in a relationship to know what a proper one is. It's like if I said prostitution is bad but I have never partaken. Come on, guys, be sensible.Blah Blah Blah. be sensible. Blah Blah Blah. I have no life. Blah Blah Blah. Im fat.
Dear Sally.........Shut up!


ok, don't be reasonable. try to flirt with every woman you run across on the internet for all i care. :roll:

[Flagg]

i don't know what most people call 'cheating', but I rather call it endangering a relationship. and what people call 'merely flirting' or just talking can lead to something much more dangerous. there is the element of fantasy, and you will eventually want to act on your fantasies.

Not necessarily....and I'd go so far to say, not typically either.....

People want to be viewed by the opposite *** as being attractive.....even AFTER being in a committed relationship.....flirting can offer a bit of occasionally necessary ego reinforcement....basically, when a girl/lady flirts with me, I flirt back.....but there is a line that is never crossed.....hell I even tell my live-in girlfriend as soon as I can, "See honey, all you woman can't keep your hands off me!" Then I usually do my tomcat strut.


my advice: if you are dating someone or are married to someone (especially when married), that person better be your only fantasy/whatever. otherwise, you are introducing a crack in your relationship which can grow and grow until it's too late.

Sorry mate, no offense.....but I've been around and been doing this a bit longer than you....you'll eventually see this isn't a black/white issue...there's a HUGE grey area........and it's up to each person to find out where they stand.....

[EvanL]

WTF, guys. You don't need to be in a relationship to know what a proper one is. It's like if I said prostitution is bad but I have never partaken. Come on, guys, be sensible.Blah Blah Blah. be sensible. Blah Blah Blah. I have no life. Blah Blah Blah. Im fat.
Dear Sally.........Shut up!


ok, don't be reasonable. try to flirt with every woman you run across on the internet for all i care. :roll:
Flirting on the internet doesnt mean **** mr billy graham.

[Ratamacue]

WTF, guys. You don't need to be in a relationship to know what a proper one is. It's like if I said prostitution is bad but I have never partaken. Come on, guys, be sensible.Blah Blah Blah. be sensible. Blah Blah Blah. I have no life. Blah Blah Blah. Im fat.
Dear Sally.........Shut up!


ok, don't be reasonable. try to flirt with every woman you run across on the internet for all i care. :roll:

Go get laid, Seoul.

[Seoulstriker]

whatever, man. i just gave my opinion and my thoughts.

[Trigger]

I only flirt with myself. I also scream my own name during ***.

What?

[California Joe]

Give me some sugah you blue love monkey.

[Trigger]

Are you flirting with me? 'cause... eeeeww! :D

[EvanL]

whatever, man. i just gave my opinion and my thoughts.
And we thank you for not continuing. :D

[farmgirl]

WTF, guys. You don't need to be in a relationship to know what a proper one is. It's like if I said prostitution is bad but I have never partaken. Come on, guys, be sensible.Blah Blah Blah. be sensible. Blah Blah Blah. I have no life. Blah Blah Blah. Im fat.
Dear Sally.........Shut up!



Evan.... be nice. There is no excuse in personal attacks. Really... you can express a dissenting opinion without saying mean things.

[Jack Mehoff]

WTF, guys. You don't need to be in a relationship to know what a proper one is. It's like if I said prostitution is bad but I have never partaken. Come on, guys, be sensible.Blah Blah Blah. be sensible. Blah Blah Blah. I have no life. Blah Blah Blah. Im fat.
Dear Sally.........Shut up!



Evan.... be nice. There is no excuse in personal attacks. Really... you can express a dissenting opinion without saying mean things.

Baby, how a YOU doing? http://www.click-smilies.de/sammlung0304/liebe/love-smiley-001.gif

[Tane Angle]

eatin' ain't cheatin' rofl Tell me that doesn't mean what I think it does! rofl Oh jeez, I just about fell out of my chair on that one. :D

Trigger, I guess that was you in the hotel room next to mine last night? I don't think you heard my fist on the wall. p-)

Nice post, Flagg.

I don't think it's necessarily cheating. Actually, it might be quite healthy for a relationship sometimes. Flirting is pretty dang natural. 4 billion years of evolution say go flirt. Flirting is perhaps like a vent; we vent so that we don't actually do anything. Besides, as cute as those iMacs are, I don't think anyone on here is going to be having *** through their computers.

Moreover, flirting is sometimes part of people's jobs. Everyone from the waitress or girl at the counter of your local pizza place to human intelligence folks sometimes must use flirting to dotheir jobs. Are either of them cheating because they're doing their jobs?

Now here's another question: Are human intelligence folks who use *** cheating on their significant others? p-)

One more thought, if I may: There is a lot that goes on in PMs and IMs and on the phone that we don't necessarily see. We should tread lightly when judging others on here, as perhaps there is more to a person or a relationship than we know. Have a good one all, and just some thoughts...

[Skaman]

Cyber ***, cyber flirting, cyber dating, its all lame in my books. Go meet a real person and spend some quality time with the opposite *** face to face. Relationships are far healthier and far more productive when it’s physically and emotionally active. As for Seoul’s chastity speals', that’s a style of life he wants to adhere to, and we have no right to castigate him for it. But Seoul, here IS some advice, take it as you will. You are only young once, and before you know it, some fifteen years down the road you are going to be married and raising a wonderful family of your own. Cherish your youth, have fun, and don’t look back. For god’s sake don’t be stupid, but enjoy yourself in the company of some fine young women. *** is healthy and an essential aspect of the human character. Don’t distance yourself from *** and think of it as 'taboo'. But like I said, take my advice as you will, and you maintaining a 'firm grip' on your roots of chastity is fine by all means. Just something to think about....

[ofpeditor]

Once you're married, look back and take a gander at your past relationships.

You learn something from every person you date, or sleep with, or whatever the hell you do. And when you're *** gods like Jack Mehoff or I, you realize, it's downright healthy to think about other women. Hell, I love my wife to death. I wouldn't spread my seeds anywhere else, but women have breasts and asses. And female figure = fantasies. Simple as that. She knows I love her, and I know I love her and that's all that matters. We trust each other, and that alone is my ****-block when it comes to other women.

But jesus Seoul, if you didn't flirt or didn't have a fantasy now and then, I'd check your pulse. It's healthy and normal.

[Fintin]

i like the adds at the top of this thread....rather interesting

[Skaman]

i like the adds at the top of this thread....rather interesting


hahaha, good catch. (relationship problems)

[mocking_loudly_died]

Cyber ***, cyber flirting, cyber dating, its all lame in my books.

http://www.killingsheep.com/images/ducimas.jpg

[Jack Mehoff]

Wow!!! Nice ****ing PS skill. This just proves you can manipulate any pictures nowaday :D

[Fintin]

i have always found the cd drive too small to fit...and last time i used lube it burned out....internet cheating isnt worth it

[mocking_loudly_died]

Wow!!! Nice f*** PS skill. This just proves you can manipulate any pictures nowaday :D

Actually its pretty bad, I'm to lazy to bother doing a decent job.
Budinski did a crazy effort.

[Jack Mehoff]

i have always found the cd drive too small to fit...and last time i used lube it burned out....internet cheating isnt worth it

Should have try the power supply instead

[Kriz]

I think it depends on each relationship, some girls might be offende by flirting via the internet, other's might not.

[Fintin]

Should have try the power supply instead


did that too....ended up with nasty burns...

[Jack Mehoff]

Girl: Hi
Boy: hello
Boy: who is this?
Girl: just a someone?
Boy: A someone I know?
Girl: nope
Boy: Then why the hell are you bothering me?
Girl: well sorrrrrry
Girl: I just wanted to chat with you
Boy: why?
Girl: nevermind your an asshole
Boy: Hey wait a minute
Girl: yes?
Boy: look I'm sorry. I'm just a little paranoid
Girl: paranoid?
Boy: yes
Girl: of what?
Girl: me?
Boy: No. I'm in hiding.
Girl: LOL
Boy: Don't ******* laugh at me!
Boy: This **** is serious!
Girl: What are you hiding from?
Boy: The cops.
Girl: gimme a ******* break
Boy: I'm serious.
Girl: I don't get it
Boy: The cops are after me.
Girl: For what?
Boy: I'm wanted in three states
Girl: For???
Boy: It's kindof embarrasing.
Boy: I had *** with a turkey.
Boy: Hello?
Girl: You are ******* sick.
Boy: Send me your picture.
Girl: why?
Boy: so I know you aren't one of them.
Girl: One of what?
Boy: The cops.
Girl: I'm not a cop i told you
Boy: Then send me your picture.
Girl: hold on
Boy: Hurry up.
Boy: Are you there?
Boy: **** you, cop!
Girl: Hey sorry
Girl: I had to do something for my mom.
Boy: I thought you were trying to find a picture to send to me.
Boy: When really you were notifying the authorities.
Boy: Weren't you!?
Girl: thats not it
Boy: Then what?
Girl: I don't want to send you the picture cause I'm not pretty
Boy: Most cops aren't
Girl: IM NOT A ******* COP YOU ****HEAD!
Boy: Then send me the picture.
Girl: fine. What's your e-mail?
Boy: Just send it through here.
Girl: alright *PIC*
Girl: Did you get it?
Boy: Hold on. I'm looking.
Girl: That was me back in may
Girl: I've lost weight since then.
Boy: I hope so
Girl: what?!?
Girl: that hurt my feelings.
Boy: Did it?
Girl: Yes. I'm not that much smaller than that now.
Boy: Will it make you feel better if I send you my picture?
Girl: yes
Boy: Alright let me find it.
Girl: kks
Boy: Okay here it is. *PIC*
Girl: this isn't you.
Boy: I'll be damned if it ain't!
Girl: You don't look like that.
Boy: How the hell do you know?
Girl: cause your profile has another picture.
Boy: The profile pic is a fake.
Boy: I use it to hide from the cops.
Girl: You look like the Farm Fresh guy lol
Boy: Well, you look like you ATE the Farm Fresh guy....
Boy: Not to mention all the groceries.
Girl: Go **** yourself
Boy: I was going to until I saw that picture
Boy: Now my **** won't get hard for a week.
Girl: I shouldn't have sent you that picture.
Girl: You've done nothing but slam me.
Girl: you hurt me.
Boy: And calling me the Farm Fresh guy doesn't hurt me?
Girl: I thought you were bull****ting me!
Boy: Why would I do that?
Girl: I can't believe that cops are after you
Boy: I can't believe Santa lets you sit on his lap..
Girl: FUC YOU!!!
Boy: You'd break both of his legs.
Girl: You're a ******* asshole.
Girl: I've been teased my whole life because of my weight
Girl: and you make fun of me when you don't even know me
Boy: Ok. I'm sorry.
Girl: No you aren't
Boy: You're right. I'm not.
Boy: HAARRRRR!
Girl: I'm done with you
Boy: Aww. I'm sorry.
Girl: I'm putting you on ignore
Boy: Wait a sec
Boy: We got off on the wrong foot.
Boy: Wanna start over?
Girl: No
Boy: I'll eat your pussy
Girl: You'll what?
Boy: You heard me.
Boy: I said I'd eat your pussy.
Girl: I thought you said you couldn't get it hard after seeing my picture
Boy: Do I need a hard-on to eat your pussy?
Girl: I'd like to know that the man eating me out is excited yes
Boy: Well I'm not like most men.
Boy: I get excited in different ways.
Girl: Like what?
Boy: Do you really wanna know?
Girl: I don't know
Boy: You have to tell me yes or no.
Girl: I'm afraid to
Boy: Why?
Girl: cause
Boy: cause why?
Girl: well lets see
Girl: you say you have *** with turkeys. You call me fat. then you wanna eat me out
Girl: doesn't that seem strange to you?
Boy: Nope
Girl: well its strange to me
Boy: Fine. I won't do it if you don't want me to
Girl: I didn't say that
Boy: So is that a yes?
Girl: I guess so.
Boy: Ok. I need your help getting excited though.
Boy: Are you willing?
Girl: What do you need me to do?
Boy: I need you talk like a pirate.
Girl: ???
Boy: When I start to go limp... you say "HARRRR!!!"
Boy: ok?
Boy: Hello?
Girl: You can't be serious
Boy: Oh yes I am!
Boy: It's my fantasy.
Girl: this is retarded
Boy: Do you want it or not?
Girl: Yes I want it.
Boy: Then you'll do it for me?
Girl: sure
Boy: Ok. Here we go.
Boy: I gently remove your panties and being to massage your thighs.
Boy: You get really juicy thinking about my tounge brushing up against them
Boy: I softly begin to tounge your wet pussy.
Boy: I run my tounge up and down your smooth slit.
Girl: mmmm yeah
Boy: uh oh ...going limp.
Girl: Har
Boy: You gotta do better than that!
Boy: Your picture was really bad.
Girl: HARRRRRRRRRRRR
Boy: Ahhhh. Much better. I feel your pussy get more moist with every stroke.
Boy: I softly suck on your clit bringing it in and out of my mouth.
Boy: Your juices run down my chin as your scent makes its way to my nose.
Boy: I begin to feel empowered by your femininity.
Girl: mmmmmm you are good
Boy: I feel your thighs tighten as I suck harder
Boy: going limp
Girl: HARRRRRRR
Boy: Mmmm I grab your swelling buttocks in my hands.
Boy: You begin to sway back and forth.
Boy: going limp
Girl: this is stupid
Boy: ...still limp
Boy: Do it!
Girl: HARRRRRRRRRRRRR
Boy: I turn you around to lick your asshole.
Boy: I pry apart that battleship you call your ass.
Boy: I see **** nuggets hanging from the hair around your asshole.
Girl: WTF?!?!?
Boy: They stink really bad.
Girl: OMG STOP!!!
Boy: I start to get fed up with your ugly ass
Boy: I tear off your wooden peg leg.
Boy: I ram it up your ass.
Girl: YOURE A ******* PYSCHO!!
Boy: Then I pour hot carmel over your head.
Boy: And turn you into a ******* candy apple...
Boy: I kick you in the face!
Girl: **** YOU ASSHOLE!!
Boy: The celluloid from your cheeks hits the side of the cabin...
Boy: Your parrot flys away.
Boy: ...going limp again.
Boy: Hello?
Boy: Say it!
Boy: HAARRRRRR!!!!!

[Guttorm]

rofl

hehe, that one is pure genious jack!

Anyway, when it coems to what's cheating, and whats not, I usually just think what I wouldn't want my gf to do, and then try not to do those things. :D

Although it's not always that simple... :D :P ;)

[JiJoMacLE45]

eatin' ain't cheatin'

LMMFAO, I haven't heard that one since the '90s.

Jack, I see a visit with a mental health care provider in your immediate future.

[Jack Mehoff]

eatin' ain't cheatin'

LMMFAO, I haven't heard that one since the '90s.

Jack, I see a visit with a mental health care provider in your immediate future.


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