Fathers disappear from households across America
Nicole Hawkins‘ three daughters have matching glittery boots, but none has the same father. Each has uniquely colored ties in her hair, but none has a dad present in her life.
As another single mother on Sumner Road decked her row-house stoop with Christmas lights and a plastic Santa, Ms. Hawkins recalled that her middle child’s father has never spent a holiday or birthday with her. In her neighborhood in Southeast Washington, 1 in 10 children live with both parents, and 84 percent live with only their mother.
In every state, the portion of families where children have two parents, rather than one, has dropped significantly over the past decade. Even as the country added 160,000 families with children, the number of two-parent households decreased by 1.2 million. Fifteen million U.S. children, or 1 in 3, live without a father, and nearly 5 million live without a mother. In 1960, just 11 percent of American children lived in homes without fathers.
America is awash in poverty, crime, drugs and other problems, but more than perhaps anything else, it all comes down to this, said Vincent DiCaro, vice president of the National Fatherhood Initiative: Deal with absent fathers, and the rest follows.
People “look at a child in need, in poverty or failing in school, and ask, ‘What can we do to help?’ But what we do is ask, ‘Why does that child need help in the first place?’ And the answer is often it’s because [the child lacks] a responsible and involved father,” he said.
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I think there is a causation problem.
A lot of good dads are away working and providing for the family. Their children make it out fine.
A lot of bad dads run away and leave their kids. Will that sort of man really be a positive force in the child's life?
This reminds me of the irritating boost self-esteem = boost performance movement. Dad involvement = better children.
Well, AC from my experiance, if you can instill a set of values early and reenforce them often, it does help them later in decision making.
Or maybe Ms. Hawkins should stop seeing and making babies with retards.Ms. Hawkins, the mother of three, lives with her youngest child’s father but considers herself a single parent.
“When he’s home, he’s watching TV; it’s his time. I get no help. Financially, he’s been a good provider,” she said, even for the children who aren’t his. But “as far as being involved in activities, not so much.”
Her relationship with her eldest child’s father ended over his refusal to support their offspring, and her second child’s father is in prison.
That would make too much sense. Also Washington DC is filled with retards.Originally Posted by Sniffit
And yet we have to struggle with butt **** stupid folk who oppose making birth control free and available and *** education mandatory.
I like the idea of free abortions.......as Freakonomics appears to show reduced crime rates down the track.
I'd also be a big supporter of paying $1000 for irreversible vasectomies and $10,000 for irreversible tubal ligations.
While I agree that wealth disparity is a significant social issue.....simply because society can only sustain so much of it for so long before an excessive amount of bad stuff happens(but could be a LONG time down the track).......the finger needs to be pointed 360 degrees.
Lots of folks on the left pointing fingers at the wealthy, but not pointing any fingers at themselves.
The fact of the matter is that folks who would be categorized as middle class slip into the marginal class when busted up, even if it's only the high frictional costs of mow having to run two households with all the associated expenses rather than one.
Where together represents an opportunity to own a home, educated your kids, and save for retirement(yes often at considerable sacrifice elsewhere), apart you have two single parent households a paycheck or three away from homelessness.
It's not just "The Man", it's some p!ss poor personal choices as well.
Also, the gangs in the larger cities take these kids in and create more gang bangers.
But she get's a bigger check if she makes more.
Free birth control is one thing but expecting it to be used enough to make a difference is not realistic IMO.
Hahaha my ex's friends each had 4 abortions... They are 25 for f*ck sakes.
Damn Vince, that is some crazy stuff. Seems that would screw up a woman's body.
I think it's worth pointing out that some mothers just aren't very nice people and make it difficult for fathers to see their children on purpose.
Thems some quality broads!Happened to a good friend of mine, it was insane. He was the nicest guy and she was a complete psycho.
A guy that graduated high school in my town a few years ago has a 5 year old son. He missed almost all of his life up until this past Thanksgiving because the mother had a bull**** restraining order against him. As far as I have been told, the story goes that she thought he was a bad influence, despite being a cocaine user herself.
The world is a truly confusing place.
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